(Closed) Time management

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Uh oh.  I’m terribly sorry to hear.  Could you possibly write him a letter explaining how you feel?  Maybe he’s having a tough time adjusting to days, but it’s really no excuse and he should be fine shortly.  I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 6
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Carolyn72: I can certainly understand your frustration.  My Future Mother-In-Law goes through this actually. She’s talked to him about it, but nothing ever happens.  His excuse is that “he’s worked all day”.  Well, so has she (until she hurt her back), but then gave Fiance and I flack because “we do nothing” – which was completely untrue.  I really, really wish I had some more solid advice for you.  It’s a shame that you have to be at each other’s throats like this.  Especially after 17 years.

Post # 8
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

‘we need to talk. something has GOT to change” I go by the rule of thumb that my Fiance cant read my mind. screw suttle hints. there is no “what if it doesn’t” there just needs to be a change. We both have had talks with eachother about splitting responsibilities. meaning we both get lazy. What happens if you just dont clean and do stuff? you sound SO frustrated 🙁

Post # 10
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My mom went through this with my step dad when he retired the first time. She went from seeing him on weekends only to having him around 24/7 and it drove her nuts! He is old school and believes that the wife should do all the cleaning. He will do the cooking if she asks him to, but the cleaning is pretty much on her. Now he will do the traditional man roles, but it does get frustrating at times. I thought they were going to kill each other for awhile there.

They ended up talking about who was responsible for what and when and that seemed to help a lot. That was about 5 years ago and they are still married, so you can get through it. He is not the easiest person to communicate with so if they can do it anyone can…lol.

Post # 12
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If that is what works, charts never work in my house. I have a different shift from Darling Husband and I typically text him what I am asking him to do that day. I start off with “What are you planning to do today?” and take it from there. For us there is no set things, but maybe starting off slow like that will help. Maybe if you make him aware that you need help it will make a difference. Men can be dense and subtelty is lost on their manbrain…lol.

I know with my mom and stepdad they ended up doing a this is your responsibility and this is mine. And when it needs to be done they take care of it.

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