Post # 1
As a young professional, I often wonder what everyone considers acceptable when it comes to time off for your wedding. My fiance and I went back and forth on this, mostly because we each only get 10 days total, but we also both wanted to take a full two weeks. We’re getting married out of state, so we wanted to arrive at our destination a few days early to make sure everything was okay, and then we also wanted a few days after our honeymoon to regroup.
Initially, I thought I was asking too much from my employer. Two full weeks is a lot. Then I came to a realization, it’s my WEDDING DAY. It’s only going to happen once. I want time to enjoy it. Ultimately, neither of our employers cared, but I’ve heard that some people aren’t able to get the time off, and some people are able to take three to four weeks.
How much did you end up taking off for your wedding? Did you have any hesitations? How understanding was your employer? Is your company more lenient when it comes to time off for weddings?
Post # 3
I’m taking a total of 8 business days from work. Thursday the 16th through Monday the 27th. (Going back to work on Tuesday the 28th)
Post # 4
I’m taking 9 days (two full weeks, but one of the days is a holiday). I would have taken more time but Fiance can only get 2 wks off at a time.
It’s your wedding and its YOUR time off. As long as there is no company policy dictating how much time you get off, go for it!
Post # 5
I planned to take 2.5 (12 days) weeks off total for the wedding and honeymoon. I was temping before I was hired full-time, and my boss knew how much time I wanted off before she hired me. I didn’t have anough vacation, sick leave, or comp time to cover my absence since I only started permamently 3 months before the wedding, so we just agreed that I would take leave without pay.
I absolutely do not regret taking that much time! It gave me a couple extra days before the wedding to sort stuff out, and we took a full 2 week honeymoon. My husband also took 2 weeks (10 days), but he had been in his job almost a year and had enough vacation and comp time to cover his absence. I don’t think 2 weeks is unreasonable.
Post # 6
In actuality, I’ll be gone for 17 days total, but I’m not taking any time off. I’ve crammed an entire month of shifts into the first 2 weeks of July… so while work is kind of he**ish right now–8-10 hour shifts on all weekend days between now and the wedding in addition to working every weekday, I’ll be cruising on the backside!
Post # 7
I took about two weeks (the week before and the week after), but the week before the wedding was more about moving my things into our house rather than a ton of wedding stuff. But my job is super flexible as I work from home, and with a small business I’ve been with for almost 10 years. Everyone was very accomodating of any time off I wanted.
My husband took two weeks too, but started time off the thursday before the wedding and went back the 2nd wednesday after the wedding. That gave him a few days before the wedding and a few days after we got back from the honeymoon to enjoy each other’s company back home and relax. I loved those first few married days at home.
If you have to pick, the days off before the wedding may be more valuable, as you probably would be too distracted to get too much work done anyway, I know I was 🙂
Post # 8
I only took off 6 days. My wedding was the Sunday before Memorial Day, so I took Thursday and Friday of the prior week, then the four days after. With the two weekends, it really was enough time. I’m so glad I took a couple of days beforehand, but it was just enough time for me.
I’m also glad that I have enough vacation time left over to take a decent break later in the year.
Post # 9
I took 11 days off from work – 3 days the week before the wedding, the entire week after the wedding, and 3 days the week after that. I travel for my job, so I arranged my schedule to work from home on the two partial weeks. My project manager wasn’t thrilled that I took so much time off, but he understood and didn’t push back.
Post # 10
I think as long as you have the time off it should not be a problem. If you have to go into taking unpaid leave then that’s another story. But otherwise just make sure you get your work done and make it as easy as possible before you leave, like you would for any other vacation.
We’re not honeymooning immediately after the wedding. Right now we’re thinking Thursday, Friday before the wedding and Monday after to recoup. For the honeymoon we have always talked of 2 weeks (10 business days) but I’m really trying to make it at least 2.5 weeks. Which if I can make it 2.5 we can lump Labor Day in there as well. Hehe. We’ll see, it all depends on $$ and whether the Fiance will have a new job by then. As of now based on my calculations I have just enough time for all that plus other vacations planned between now and then to visit family and go home for the holidays.
Post # 11
I took 2.5 weeks (or a total of 13 business days). I saved up all of my days for the wedding, and everyone here was very understanding! They covered for me while I was gone, and I covered for them while they were on their honeymoons!
Post # 12
Right now the plan to is to get married, go on honeymoon, have Christmas, and then MOVE. So. I am saving up a lot of vacation time to take and basically get paid to get married. But since we are moving so soon, I won’t be returning to the office once I leave!
Post # 13
This was actually a huge ordeal for us. My FI’s coworker (they do the same tasks) set his wedding date exactly 1 week before our wedding, even though we announced our date 2 months earlier. The coworker wanted to take 3 weeks for his honeymoon and he already booked without even telling my Fiance or their boss. It took management over a month to approve my FI’s two week vacation request! My Fiance was even thinking of quitting if they denied his request, mainly because never takes vacations and it’s our wedding day/honeymoon! So I think you are right here.
Post # 14
For me, it wasn’t an issue. I finished graduate school in May and don’t begin work until the middle of August. For my husband, it was a little more work. He works at a small company and is depended upon heavily by his boss. The summer is especially busy for them, so it was hard for him to ask for time off. Luckily, his boss was pretty understanding and gave him the day before off and a full week after off. We didn’t get back from our honeymoon until late Monday night and still had to drive back home, so he didn’t go back to work until Wednesday. All in all, he was able to get 8 days off of work and the weekends helped extend the time.
Post # 15
Thanks for all the answers, guys! I think I’m finding that 1-2 weeks is pretty standard. I was just curious as to what you all had to say 🙂
Post # 16
My fiance and I work in the same place and he is in upper level management so he’s actually pretty key to operations. I took off three days before the wedding, and 9 days for the honeymoon (one day is a holiday so I’m not counting it.) In total we’ll be out of work for 2.5 weeks. Our bosses were great about it esp. since two of our co-worker’s wives are having babies that month. The only part I feel bad about is we come back for four days and take a day off because of his brother’s wedding.