(Closed) Time off for Wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sea_Ashley:  I took a week before and four weeks after. I’m do glad I took the full week before as I DIYed a lot and still wanted pampering time. Plus I had shingles the week before, which didn’t help.

Post # 4
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am taking the week before off and the week after, plus the following Monday (we get back from our honeymoon on Sunday and I just know myself and need a day to settle back in).

I have saved up time off for quite awhile to make this happen. I also likely will be taking 3 – 4 days the month before (scattered) to get wedding things done, final vendor meetings, etc as it is a 2 hour drive from where we live. My parents are all out of town and will be coming in starting Tuesday/Wednesday.

So my last day of work will be the 29th (a Friday), and I will return the 16th (a Tuesday).

I am in a job where work just sits and waits for me, no one has to cover for me, so it actually is harder for ME to take that much time off. Yeah, there are urgent things that someone else will have to figure out a different way to accomplish them, but for the most part, I do double the work for two weeks before and two weeks after vacation just to be able to take that time off.

I do think it is a LOT of time at once in the US work culture, but I think it is worth it.

Fiance is taking the Friday before the wedding off and then through that Monday, the 16th. So his is 7 days off of work, mine is 11.

Post # 5
3229 posts
Sugar bee

@Sea_Ashley:  I plan on taking 1.5 days before – the wedding is on a Saturday – and the Monday after off. We have a very busy year and Fiance can’t take very much time off (he’ll just take the Friday before off). We plan on taking time off in 2014 to go on a honeymoon though. We simply have too many committments for his 10 vacation days this year.

If we could take a week before and a week after off, we would. We just started our jobs, so we can’t.

Post # 6
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I took 2 weeks off with the following plans:

Monday before: drive 3hrs to wedding location where we had rented a house for the week
Friday before: “rehearsal” barbecue
Saturday: wedding day
following Sunday: post-wedding brunch, pack up, drive 3 hrs home
following Monday: drive 5hrs to “mini-moon” destination
following Saturday: drive 5hrs home, back to work on Monday

I wouldn’t have bothered with this except that we had deliberately rented the house for a week so that we could have some extra family / vacation time.  For a local wedding, I probably would have taken 2 days off.

As it turns out, Hurricane Irene completely destroyed the area where we got married, so it’s good we had the week off.  We spent most of the time trying to save the wedding, including researching alternate venues (since ours had no power), finding a new caterer after ours quit, and various similar disasters.  We spent the whole week busting our a$$es and barely got to enjoy the vacation house.

Personally, I’d rather reserve my vacation time for travel / honeymoon than last minute wedding prep.  A week seems like overload to me for a local wedding, barring a FEMA-level disaster like we had.

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Darling Husband and I did not take any time off before the wedding (wedding was on a Saturday, both of us worked Friday) and we could only go on a 3 day honeymoon because of school so we only took Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday off the following week,

Post # 8
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Sea_Ashley:  Friday before wedding, Monday after for 2 days for the wedding and a month later I’m taking 5 days off for our honeymoon!

Most people’s vacay time seems excessive to me but obviously I’m on the low end of it.

Post # 9
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I took the the Wednesday – Friday before and the Monday – Wednesday after. We also took a Friday/Monday off two weeks after the wedding to go on a small honeymoon. the before days were for myself (haircut and nails) and to also be around for out of town guests, and two of the after days were to do fun things like move some of my things and to change the address on my driver’s license.

Because I have a small department in a small company, taking any more than that was just not feasible. 

The best part is that my company gives you 3 paid days off for your wedding, a benefit it took me 17 years to finally use!  So I really only had to use 3 PTO days for the wedding itself.


Post # 10
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m taking 2 weeks off. 2 days before the wedding (one of those being a travel day since we live 7 hours away from our venue)

And then the rest of those days we’ll be honeymooning in Florida and the Caribbean. I was really nervous to ask for so many days off since I just started a new job 2 months ago and already had everything booked/planned. Luckily my new boss was very supportive about it 🙂

Post # 11
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I plan on taking off From the Wednesday before my wedding (the 12th) to the following Sunday (23rd) (I work 2 jobs, so i work 7 days a week) for a grand total of 11 days. I would take off more if i was able as well! Fiance is taking off from the 15th (Saturday) until the 23rd, so his time off will be 8 days. Of course that can change, depending on the Honeymoon we decide to take.

I would take more time if i could though, so more power to you!

Post # 12
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NAvery:  I was also going to take the week before off and the week after, plus the following Monday. The wedding is in CA so we needed the time. However, we recently decided that we are going to move back to CA, so we’re driving out on the 4th and and plan on getting there on the 10th at the absolute latest. We are probably crazy, but there’s really no better time for us so I’m just going to embrace it!

Post # 13
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I took off the week before (which I didn’t really NEED, but I had the time and just scattered things do to through the week so I was never too busy).  We got married on Saturday and then took the following week off for the honeymoon as well as the next Monday.  On Monday I did all my name changing stuff so it worked out great!

Post # 14
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I took off 2 days before, but I had too much work to do to leave any sooner. Took 2 weeks off after that 🙂 Honeymoon was 11 days. Didn’t feel excessive at all; if anything I wish we’d had more time at home before going back. 

Post # 15
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I plan to take a few days before and then 2 weeks for honeymoon. You’re totally not excessive!

Post # 16
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m taking 2.5 weeks off. 3 days off before my ceremony here and 2 weeks off for my destination wedding and honeymoon combined

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