Post # 1
Curious to know how much time you took off around the time of your wedding? This includes taking time off for bachelor/bachelorette parties, general wedding prep, honeymoon, etc.
I’ve only been with my job for just shy of 6 months, which is also when my PTO kicks in and unfortunately it is limited. We’ve been super busy at my work hiring new people one of which is an intern I am working with/training plus my responsibilities have almost tripled because an old co-worker left. There are also a few semi-big projects going on that I’m working on, so with all of that going on part of me feels really bad asking for so much time off.
Days off I’m requesting would be:
- Half day two weeks before to get our marriage license (Friday)
- 1 day a week before for bachelorette party (Friday)
- Two days (maybe a day and a half) right before the wedding (Thursday and Friday)
- Monday after the wedding
- 4 days for the honeymoon (which is two weeks after the wedding)
Instead of doing the half-day for the marriage license and full day for the bachelorette I could just take one half day to go get the marriage license and leave after that for my bachelorette, but that means I would be driving myself to my bachelorette party (which is like a 2 ½ hour drive away) and I’d really love to go up with the rest of my bridesmaids earlier so we have the whole day to do fun stuff. Then, I could also work a half-day the Thursday before the wedding. However, the night before I’ll be at a concert and didn’t really think I’d feel like going to work and I could use Thursday to pamper myself and help get ready for rehearsal that evening. Plus, I also don’t HAVE to take the Monday off after the wedding, it just sounded nice. Fiance is just taking a half day Thursday and full day Friday before the wedding then the time off for the honeymoon.
I don’t have enough PTO to cover my days off, so I am 100% okay with taking some of them unpaid and planned to do so. My company also did know when I was hired that I would be getting married, but I still can’t help but feel bad I’m asking to have all of these days off so close together. I think my boss would be fine with it and I know most likely it wouldn’t be an issue but still. Anyone think that is too much time to be asking off or is that reasonable? Suggestions on how to approach it with my boss? (I still have time before I need to officially put in my requests per company policy) What did you do when it came to time-off for your wedding?
Post # 2
I took the three business days prior off. Honestly, not a lot wedding related happened in those days like I expected. We bought my grandma a dress and picked up my husbands tux. Probably didn’t need the three days but it was nice to take a break.
Post # 3
I think I took a week off before and then 2 weeks off after – but I am in the UK and the company I worked for at the time game 30 days of annual leave a year.
Post # 4
I’m taking the week before and the week after off, but I have plenty of vacation time for it. My fiance doesn’t have vacation time, so he is taking the actual day off and two days for our minimoon.
Post # 5
I’m taking quite a bit of time off for wedding related events:
– Taken lots of random days during the week for vendor meetings and other wedding related stuff
– Taking 3 days off for my bachelorette
– Taking 2 days off prior to each of my two showers (will have family in town as well)
– Once my dress arrives I’m sure I will have to take days off or half days as my seamstress isn’t close
– Will take the whole week off before the wedding, the whole week after while we’re in town, and then the following week which will be our minimoon
Very excited for a bunch of short weeks in the coming months, but I know it’s going to make coming back after the wedding a very tough transition.
Post # 6
I’m getting married on a Friday. I’ve taken the Thursday off as well and I think we’ll have to find time in the next few months to get our marriage license. I’ve been with my company for almost a year and I don’t have much time off.
Really, what can they do if you request time off? My last HR organization just said that if we went over our allotted time off, it meant a sit down meeting about it. They can’t stop you. Plenty of people call in regularly because they don’t feel like working— I think those are the ones HR should worry about. Enjoy your time off!
Post # 7
I got married on a Saturday, out of town, and took a half day the Thursday before, and Friday off. I was also only at my job for about 6 months before our wedding, and my boss was really understanding. We took our 10 day honeymoon right after the wedding and I didn’t have to take any unpaid leave. Can you see if your company is willing to “forward” you some leave time? My boss had me keep track of the hours I “owed” and I crossed them out when I worked OT. I understand this isn’t feasible for everyone, but it worked out well in my situation. I’ve now been at this office for 2 years and they’ve never held this time off against me.
Post # 8
I work 3 12 hour shifts a week. I worked Sun/Mon/Tuesday before my Sunday wedding. I took one week off after the wedding (Sun-Sun) and scheduled myself to work Thurs/Fri/Sat of that week. Luckily I had heaps of PTO but only used 3 days worth.
Post # 9
I’m getting married on a Friday. I’m not taking any extra time off before (I’ll even have to work a bit the day of – payroll has to get done! Lol). We aren’t going on our honeymoon until a month later, so I’m taking the Monday and Tuesday after the wedding off.
Post # 10
I’m working right up to the wire. I also just moved roles. I get married this Saturday and am working all week and Friday. I am back in work Monday and Tuesday before flying to our destination wedding celebration next Weds – I have two weeks off with the wedding smack bang in the middle. I’m also taking 3 weeks for honeymoon (in November).
I would personally prioritise time off for after the wedding and for honeymoon.
Post # 11
Our wedding is Sept 29 of this year. I am taking off:
Thursday/Friday before (27+28)
The entire week after (Oct 1-5)
The 8th is a holiday for us, and I am taking off Tuesday + Wednesday (9+10) also.
We are going on a cruise, getting back Sunday the 7th and so I want a little time going into the next week to unpack. We’re also leaving on Sunday after the wedding (1st) so we will likely be throwing our gifts in our house and heading out right after, so it will be nice to have some time off after we get back for opening gifts, writing thank you’s, etc.
Post # 12
We took two weeks before the wedding and one week after. We DIY’ed alot and got married back where we grew up. My work is very flexible, I get four weeks vacation and can bank up to 400 hours of overtime. My husband doesn’t get vacation time (he is paid out on every paycheque) but the owner is a friend, so he gifted him two weeks of PTO.
Post # 13
I’ve had a half day for the menu tasting and have a half day for a hair trial booked. I’m going to take a day or two off specifically for vendor meetings about a month before, and a day off after my hen party. The Monday the week before is a bank holiday so I’m technically taking 4 days the week before, and 2 weeks and a day after (I don’t feel like going in to work on the Monday!)
I started in my job in October and an getting married at the beginning of September, so about 11 months in. I’m in the UK and haven’t taken very much non wedding time off since I started!
Post # 14
DON’T FEEL GUILTY.
This is somewhat a uniquely-woman problem because we are conditioned by society to feel bad or guilty for taking time for ourselves, or being ambitious in the workplace, or earning a great wage, etc.
You are taking off an entirely reasonable amount of time!
As for your question, I’ve taken off quite a few half days already – venue walkthrough, fittings.
I also plan to take off 2 days before the wedding, and 3 weeks after for honeymoon. About half of that will be unpaid, and my company’s fine with it.
Post # 15
I took one day off before (Thurs) and Friday was my original day off (engineer 980 schedule). I then took the whole week off after for our honeymoon. Didn’t take any days off for anything else. My bachelorette party was a short and simple weekend getaway to a city nearby.