(Closed) time space btw ceremony and reception

posted 10 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We are in a similar boat.  Our ceremony starts at 3pm and cocktail hour does not start until 6pm.

At first I was all upset running around worried about my guest but in the end I have just decided that there really isn’t much I can do.  I have actully decided that it is a good thing b/c we will be able to get all of our pics done and we will be able to participate in cocktail hour!

My Aunt has offered to host family and friends at my fathers house and becasue my parents are divorced and my mom is refusing to grasp the concept of her family or my Step-dad’s family going to my Dad’s house we will also be direcrting people to the lobby/bar of the hotel where we have rooms blocked.  I am also going to include some local attrations…national park, mall, outlets!

This info is on our website and I will either include it in the program or in another packet of papers to be distributed as guest leave the ceremony.  Plus, I am having the Mom’s inform their respective families of the time gap!

Do what you can to accomadate your guest but don’t stress over it!

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’ve seen a few posts about this.  I have not been to a wedding where this happened (the gap between ceremony and reception) 

So just out of curiousity has anyone gone to wedding that this happened?  Did you skip the ceremony?  What do you do between events?   I’d be at a loss as to what to do…..

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I personally don’t think it’s a big deal.  Every wedding that I’ve been to has had this gap (anywhere from an hour to 3.5 hours).  Many guests, esp Catholic ones, will be used to this.  I always used the time to go back to the hotel room, relax and change.  If the reception is fancy, then often women esp like to wear a different more elegant dress to the reception than to church (ie more of a "church" dress to the ceremony).  I think people may enjoy having the down time.  Our ceremony starts at 2:30 and our cocktail hour isn’t until 7pm.  We’ll give people lists or ideas of things to do in the area, but I bet most people will just go back and hang out at their hotels. 

Also, I’ve never known anyone who explicitly skips the ceremony or reception simply because of the time gap. HTH!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

ive been to one wedding with the gap (catholic), and the grooms mom hosted a party in between at her house. the bridal party went to do their pics & maybe it was 2 hours, and it was fine. a lot of driving here & then there in between but whatever, most people are used to driving and it ate up some time. it was also super nice that day, so we were all outside at the moms house, and it was a cousin so i knew everyone. i wouldnt want a gap- but if there isnt anything to do about it, then id suggest some "activity" they can do inbetween.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY

I’ve been to loads of Catholic weddings (grew up in a predominatley Irish, Italian, Polish & Puerto Rican city) and worst case scenario,  you might get a handful of people who skip the ceremony.

2 pm isn’t really too bad of a gap anyway.  How long is your ceremony? Are you having a full mass?

We had didn’t have a full mass and it was still almost an hour by the time it was officially over, and then we did a recieving line, which probably took up almost another hour.   

So I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  People will find a way to entertain themselves.

 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY

Boothbride — I figured our actual ceremony would only be about 30 minutes long, but it was more like 40-45.  We probably started about 5-10 minutes late because I wanted to make sure everyone was seated, etc.

It can depend on a few factors though, like the length of the aisle, the length of the sermon, how big your wedding party is, etc.

Our church had a 100 foot aisle, and we had 6 bridemaids & groomsmen, 2 flowergirls, 2 rinbearers, and 2 "banner boys."  (there are a lot of kids in our family that we needed to include)  So it probably took a good 10 minutes each for the processional and recessionals.

We also did the unity candle ceremony with our mothers, which was optional.  Probably another 5 minutes added there.

We had 2 readings.  I don’t remember if we had to have at least 2 or if we chose that. 

I don’t remember how long the priest’s little sermon was.  That’s probably the biggest variable.  I’ve been to wedding before where they keep it short and sweet… and I’ve been to others where they ramble on forever.  You never really know what he’s gonna say until the time comes!

How many guests are you expecting? That will make a difference in how long to plan for if you do a receiving line. 

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I’ve been to a lot of weddings that have a gap (my whole family is Catholic) and I actually enjoy it that way. We usually went back to the hotel just to relax and hang out, and when I was a kid we would get to go swimming in the pool. I think it’s really nice for the bride and groom because you have plenty of time to get pictures taken. The wedding that I was a bridesmaid in still did a grand entrance; the bride and groom just joined us at a sports bar before it was time to go to the reception. We had a great time!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m confused here…you are saying reception, as in you’ll miss your reception if you do a grand entrance. Do you mean cocktail hour? Or the whole thing?

 

As far as the gap, the plan of giving people a place/bar to hang in between sounds ok. I personally would probably skip the ceremony if I was an in-town guest, but if I was an out-of-town guest, I would do both and just hang out some place in between. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY

Boothbride —

We weren’t there for the cocktail hour.  But we did make a grand entrance after the cocktail hour. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I went to an Indian wedding that had a big gap between ceremony & reception. We went bowling ๐Ÿ™‚ In full wedding attire. It was lots of fun! I’d suggest that.It was perfect because you don’t really work too hard and it’s in AC so you’re not getting all sweaty and hot. You might need to reserve a few lanes in advance though.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I went to an Indian wedding that had a big gap between ceremony & reception. We went bowling ๐Ÿ™‚ In full wedding attire. It was lots of fun! I’d suggest that.It was perfect because you don’t really work too hard and it’s in AC so you’re not getting all sweaty and hot. You might need to reserve a few lanes in advance though.

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