- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
“You’re wearing white?” yes as a matter of fact I am:)
“You’re wearing white?” yes as a matter of fact I am:)
Break out the bubbly indeed.
You can move onto the HARD STUFF as you get further along in the Wedding Planning
Encore Bride here…
Honestly I think there were more RUDE comments the first time round, when I was in my early 20s… the “are you pregnant” certainly seems to be a right of passage for young couples… AS IF that is the ONLY reason anyone would want to get married
8-} *rolls eyes*
This time round…
I am over 50, and Mr TTR is over 60
Not so many rude comments, but a lot of gentle ribbing… from good friends who all knew our history… (Both Encores – Each Married Before for like 20+ Years – Dating one another for 6+ Years before getting engaged etc)
So here was a sampling of responses when we told people we were Engaged.. starting with one of the very first ones… and my fave… cause he totally suckered in with how he began…
“I knew it, I knew it… I knew she was pregnant !!”
(HUGE Grin by the person that said it… totally cracked us up)
“What you guys didn’t learn anything the first time ?”
“Hey join the club, I too had Amnesia / Alzheimers and signed up for it again”
(Came from person who is closing in on 70 )
“Great, it is about time… Why should you be the Single Guy in the gang having any fun”
etc, etc, etc,
WE LOVE our friends dearly (and with 7+ years of being together pre-marriage) know them well.
All their jesting was in good fun, and made us laugh many many times over. Infact some the best laughs we’ve had with our friends in the last year have revolved around us two getting married
(They aren’t all nuts… they are actually super sweet and have also all given us their best wishes, lots of hugs, threw us a Couples Shower, came to our Reception, and brought us nic gifts)
Lol… so much humour… that sometimes when I say something Wifely to Mr TTR he’ll give me a funny smirk and say “Lol, all our friends AND I warned you not to marry me…”
Always cracks me up… and takes the edge off of whatever Husband-Wife discussion / diagreement we may be having
A family friend said to my Fiance “WOW, so you two are getting married huh? I dont understand why it is so important to have a big wedding at your age.” They wouldnt say it to me because I give as good as I get. My Fiance is a polite soldier and would never disrespect a woman but I can. :)hahahaha
Edit: Oh I forgot to add that she is divorced and her ex husband is a registered sex offender. He force a 12 year old to perform oral sex on him. She has her own hell to deal with she chose money over love and that is the end result for her.
My parents said “Ok that’s nice, we have to go to work now bye.”
It was more what WASN’T said. I came inside after gettin dropped off (after Fiance popping the question) and my mom was sitting on the end of the couch just with a half smile on her face. She NEVER said anything. No “I am happy for you” no “congratulations” no tears of joy or hugs. She knew it was going to happen because my daughter told her. Yup, my 13 year old and his 13 year old are BFF’s so to speak and had told my mom right when she got home from school. At least my kids were excited.
@mousepeach: My sister has TWICE fast forwarded right past my wedding, which isn’t until January, and expressed concern that she wants to be the first one to have children. In the presence of multiple people she has actually asked me twice if my fiancé and I plan to get pregnant before our wedding or after. Not only do I not yet want a baby, I want to look fit in my mermaid wedding gown, so I find this bizarre. She follows this question with a: good, because I want to have the first baby in the family. I don’t have the heart to tell the poor thing that we were all once babies and that our cousins have babies, so her idea of being the first baby bearer is cray cray. If she’s pregnant at my wedding that’s doubly awesome, because I get to be an Aunt and she’ll make me look thinner by standing next to me pregnant. 😉
My mum said “I don’t like your ring.” Still no congratulations. My dad didn’t even speak he just shook his head. FI’s family have been lovely though.
My first was from my father When I announced our engagement. “Can he afford you?” Not too bad but then my mother said “are you dropping out of school?” not exactly the reaction I wanted. :/
Not really rude but made my jaw drop…
At David’s Bridal trying on a bridesmaids dress for my best friends wedding and the saleswoman asks me if I’m planning on wearing a bra?
Ummmm… yes. I don’t plan on showing my nipples as the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding…
My Mother-In-Law who HATES not to be a part of ANY decision making completely ignored us when we came to the house to show her the ring on the day of our engagement and after 15 minutes said “I suppose I better have a look at this thing then”. It made me laugh. When we booked the venue, her response “It’s cheaper if you do it on a Friday”.
I had plenty more comments on the back of that from a few people, including my Father-In-Law who stated “you better get a move on getting pregnant, you’re not getting any younger you know” Incidentally, we’re not having children. Muppet!
Not really rude about the engagement, and not really “rude”
at all but definitely not what I wanted to hear… FH’s coworker’s daughter called my ring “cute.” :/ Cute. My engagment ring. She called it cute.
Oh! I got a similar comment- my ex step-father and I really never talk, but he happened to contact me the night I got engaged and when I told him he said ‘when’s the baby due?’ Umm.. We’d been together for 4.5 years then and we’re having a 19 month engagement all up. Pretty sure that’s NOT the reason we got engaged..
We called my Future Mother-In-Law soon after we got engaged and she said to me “ooooh someone called me a few days ago to ask if (my FI) was still gonna pursue me as they did not feel you are good enough for him!” That was her way of congratulating me I guess!
I’m not sure why (and maybe they’re right, who knows) but I get SO FREAKING ANNOYED at people who ask why/imply we’re “moving so quickly”. It honestly makes me want to punch them in the face.
The other thing is my mother. I was engaged before when I was younger and I got a beautiful 1ct round halo ring from him. My mother’s immediate reaction was to go out and buy a ring JUST like it because she felt hers had to be bigger/nicer than mine. My current Fiance gave me a stunning antique looking radiant cut halo and as soon as I showed my mother, she started looking for antique engagement rings for herself. She’s the type of person who buys random crap to keep her happy (my Nana does the same thing but my mother denies she’s anything like her). Sad.
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