Post # 1
We are having a string trio for our ceremony and I’ve been hardpressed to find a song that I love that they do that sounds good in strings that is wedding appropriate for me to walk down the aisle to. I’ve always loved “Time to Say Goodbye” by Andrea Bocelli, but that’s an obviously inappropriate wedding song, right? I’m not saying goodbye to anyone.
I looked up the English translation and it roughly means (in a terrible paraphrase) that it’s time to say goodbye to the places I haven’t been, because now we’re going to go to visit them and do things together, unless I’m misreading it. Here:
Time to say goodbye
to countries I never
saw and shared with you,
now, yes, I shall experience them.
I’ll go with you
on ships across seas
which, I know,no, no, exist no longer.
So my dilemma is that guests who recognize the song will think the same thing I thought first – inappropriate song for a wedding, because they won’t know the translation. I even searched the song here and found it on a previous board about inappropriate wedding songs.
So, should I go for it or not?
Post # 3
My sister in law actually walked down the aisle to this song, just the instrumental though, and it was beautiful and very moving! I say if you like it go for it!
Post # 4
Yeah…why not. Could you put the lyrics in your program?
Post # 5
I freaking LOVE that song. I say go for it.
Post # 6
Eeek…we played this at my dad’s funeral. If I heard it it would probably make me bawl…and not for the right reasons!
Post # 7
“Time to Say Goodbye” is actually a pretty bad translation of the original title in Italian, “Con te partiro,” which is closer to “I will go/leave/depart with you” (If you hear the Donna Summer version, she actually sings it as “I will go with you” rather than “Time to say goodbye.”)
The tricky thing is, it’s well-known enough here under that title that I think a lot of guests would recognize it and think, “Huh?” A few weeks back, there was a thread from a Bee who wanted to use the melody from Loch Lomond/Red Is the Rose for her processional, but the consensus was that since it’s so much better known as Loch Lomond (which has lyrics that are not the greatest for a wedding) most of the guests would be really weirded out by the choice. I’m afraid that might be the case with this, too.
Could you use it as a recessional instead of a processional? That might fit a little better…
Post # 8
I went to a wedding about 2 years ago and the bride walked down the aisle to that song. To this day when that wedding comes up people still comment on the poor song selection and sort of snicker at the bride and groom for the unwise choice.
I’m not saying it a bad song. It’s very pretty and maybe the translation is not that bad. But the general perception of it is what it is.
Post # 9
I agree with the person who said you should put the translation in your programs so everyone knows why you chose it!
Post # 10
Totally do it. If you’re worried about it, go with PP suggestion and put the translation in the programs. I very, very seriously considered this song for our first dance, but we chose it for our last dance instead so that people wouldn’t be confused. It is such a beautiful song though!
Post # 11
Oh no! I was having this dilemma too, its my one of my favourite pieces of music and had thought of using the instrumental version. I wasn’t aware of the poor English translation and have always been quoted as saying “this is my funeral song!”
When I recently started researching wedding music, I was overjoyed that the original version was actually very wedding appropriate and appears on many wedding compilation albums. Now I’m stuck too!
Let me know what you decide. I’m going to carry on researching in the meantime
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! Some of these posts made me laugh. So I told my FI about it, and he said “Isn’t that the song from Stepbrothers?” and lo and behold, it is. Will Ferrell sings it or at least something to the same tune in this big, drawn out scene.
I think that’s two strikes and I’m out though. Some guests who recognize the song might think “sad funeral song” and others (such as FI and his friends) will think of Stepbrothers. Neither are what I’m going for, so I think I’m going to keep searching…
Thanks again for your very helpful responses!
Post # 13
My best friend played it at her wedding when she walked with her father. I thought it was beautiful!
Post # 14
It is a beautiful melody. Maybe check out Telemann’s “La Grace” or Handel’s “Largo” from Xerxes, if you like “Time To Say Goodbye”? Not sure if you’re looking for classical pieces or not, but I think these have a somewhat similar feel.
Post # 15
@KCKnd2: Thanks, I will! I’m not sure what I’m looking for, which is the hard part. But I’ll start there.
Post # 16
Have you tried checking out Andrea Bocelli [EDIT – lol, just put the alternative title on accident, I meant to say] Vivo per lei? A friend of mine used it for a first dance.
Here’s a link with the translation:
Youtube, instrumental version: