(Closed) Time to stick a sock in it….

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I understand how you feel! I also know that sometimes things just slip out! Maybe you could do what I did, and explain to your Mr. that you don’t want to come across as single-minded or irritating, but that sometimes you just can’t help getting excited about the prospect of forever with him!

As for how to keep yourself from saying things… well, I don’t have any great suggestions! But good luck! There are several of us in the same boat!

Post # 5
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967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

ack! i’m in the same boat you are! we picked the ring out in march.. and I have been waitiiiiing.. through so many birthdays, holidays, vacations..the anticipation is killing me. I also can’t help it and run my mouth waaay too often. I’ve been really good the past few weeks though. The thing that helps me is to imagine and remember that the moment will (hopefully!) only happen once in my life – do I really want the experience to be lessened or worsened because I’m being so nosey? I totally know how you feel though.. let’s stick together on here and hopefully our moments will come soon!

Post # 6
Bee
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

OMG. I was so bad about this, and I had the same reasons to try not to be as you do! As SweetheartDealer said, the best thing to do is to remember that once it’s passed, it’s passed. This is a once-in-a-lifetime moment – don’t rush it. He’s probably planning something amazing.

Post # 7
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i’m emotional today so BLAAAAHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sammeeee frickin boat here, ladies. story of my life for the past 8 months, since the first time we went ring browsing.  i too tell myself that i shouldnt nag him about proposing, but every few weeks, it pops out…like diarrhea of the mouth. i can’t help it sometimes, so i get really upset with myself for even mentioning it because he is stubborn, and i feel like everytime i mention it, he will push whatever plans further back just to further torment me.  I KNOW that HE has told me several times that i will NEVER know when he is going to propose…planning is in the works, but he has told me that he is going to keep me so far off trail, i wont have ANY idea its coming.  Put it to you this way, we began looking in december at ring styles. he has told me several times matter-of-factly that he intends on designing my ring himself, with characteristics of my top choices of rings that i liked, mixed with a design that will give it his own personal edge as well. 

so, i dont even know if my ring even exists yet.  i dont even know if he is looking. and he is doing a pretty damn good job of keeping quiet about whatever phase of planning he is at right now.  so some days im good because i feel like we could possibly be nearing proposal time, but then other days i get distraught and feel like he probably hasnt even met with a jeweler to design a ring yet.

so, i guess i have my good days and my bad days…i envy you ladies that know your ring has been purchased and you are just waiting now!!!  i wish i had a little glimpse into where he is with the planning.

Post # 9
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81 posts
Worker bee

i’m totally with you, <font size=”2″ color=”#81a026″>Soon2BeMrsCLW3</font> , on envying the ladies who know that the ring has been purchased! i just wish i knew if he’s been planning anything, or what the deal is! about a month and a half ago, i told bf (over email, so he wouldn’t be pressured to respond in the moment if he didn’t want to) that i would be happy to look for and/or pay for the ring together since i’m not so traditional, etc etc. he didn’t respond, which was like torture, but then we finally talked about it this weekend. it turns out he wants it to be a surprise. super sweet, but geez, i just want to know what’s going onnnnn! haha, it’s just i’m terrible at suspense and surprises, which he knows, but still, i’m just supposed to go with the flow and not worry about it. but i have no idea about the time frame!

and now, seemingly unrelatedly, his cell phone has broken and after much deliberation he’s replacing it with a really expensive one that will cost more monthly…and he has little savings…so we’re having all these discussions about our budget and savings (we live together) but i can’t flat out ask about engagement/wedding plans, or how the stupid phone plays in or his priorities, since he wants it to be a surprise…arrrrgh! it’s either coming soon, like imminently, oooor it’s still more theoretical to him…so frustrating!

ha, i totally sound like a control freak. i’m really trying to let it go and enjoy where we are, but i can’t help it, it’s just in my nature to plan things out!

Post # 10
Member
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

futuremissjp you KNOW what your ring looks like!!!! i dont even know if he is gonna go with round or princess cut!!!!! i know he is going to design a beautiful ring, but even the thought of what its gonna looks like gets me all anxious!! there are a few that are our TOP picks, and i used to stare and gaze  at their online pics all day, until i realized that it wouldnt be a good thing to do since my ring wouldnt resemble any of those rings exactly…i felt like id be setting myself up for dissapointment so i stopped looking at them!!! (i now limit my online ring gazing to like once every 2-3 weeks lol)

akd0110, im the SAME way with my guy!! his TOY that he used to always talk about getting soon is his Harley…and i used to get REALLY worked up about it (without him knowing…I’m thinking, how are you going to buy this motorcycle AND my ring!?!??!  And then to make matters worse, he used to say that he would get his bike before proposing to me, since he felt that i wouldnt ALLOW him to get his bike once we were engaged/married!!!) Sooo yea needless to say, NOW it SEEMS that the bike might be on the backburner, but i still have no effin clue as to how far along he is with the proposal planning!

I wonder if we can start a "waiting with no effing clue as to when we will get proposed to" thread?

hahahaa

PS, you ladies have put me in a much better mood!  I was down in the dumps most of the day, so  I just want to say thank you! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
Member
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

futuremsjp, when is your anniversary? maybe he is planning it for then?

Post # 13
Member
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

awww our dating anniversary is in october too!! but the boy keeps asking about which day we actually MET which is in july, lol. 

We can keep each other sane if we both have to wait until october!! and i agree, from that magical day on december 23rd 2008 (lolol yes i remember the day, ask me the time, im pretty sure i could narrow that down within a 2 hour window lolol)  when he said "lets look at rings" i have lost my mind!!!

Post # 15
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815 posts
Busy bee

I am so happy that this board exsists and I can log in to vent. Wish we didn’t have to, but (deep breath) oh well. 

FuturemissJP, if you can find a way to keep the engagement talk to a minimum, pleeeeease let me know. 

I try not to bring it up but it never works out.  HE even mentions it sometime!  Last night, I was hanging out and he sent me a text message "are you watching Hitched or Ditched?"  (Yes I was)  Of course that started a conversation about marriage.  I just do my best to avoid the topic and if I have to say something I always remind him that I am not trying to drive him crazy. 

I’m keeping my fingers crossed here for everyone, hopefully they get to it soon!

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