(Closed) Time to VENT !!!!

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: What should I do to assure that guest will RSVP?
    Call or e-mail people who you know will attend.. : (15 votes)
    54 %
    Delete people off the list who you know will not attend.. : (0 votes)
    Don't worry about it, if they RSVP they do, if not Oh Well! : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Assume that if certain guest has not RSVP by the respond date, take them off the list. : (9 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    46384 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Last I looked, today is only the 10th. Many people wait until the last minute, unfortunately.

    Even more unfortunate, you will likely have to phone many of them.

    Until they have been on the planning side of things, many people have no idea what the impact is of a late RSVP.

    Post # 4
    84 posts
    Worker bee

    I am in the same boat I have quite a few people who did not rsvp and it drives me crazy. So Im taking it that if by now  you havnt contacted me or booked your airfare or hotel that you are not coming. so those people i will not call. I am only calling the people who have reserved the hotel and booked airfare to find out what entree they are choosing.

    But in your situation with so many people that havnt responded you have no choice but to call them 🙁   I have no idea why people are so bad with rsvp, it is alittle depressing, but it will all work out in the end !!


    Post # 5
    1239 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    that sux, I am not up to that stage yet as only just about to send out save the dates but I am already dreading waiting for rsvps.

    Post # 6
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Sounds so easy…..I have experienced this a lot with my kids birthday parties.It is so rude of people to not consider the arrangements that need to be made.

    Post # 7
    103 posts
    Blushing bee

    3 days from our ‘Please RSVP by’ date, I had less than 1/3 of our RSVPs. I waited, by the RSVP date I had about 2/3… And most of the rest arrived over the next week. I wasn’t exactly impressed but people just don’t get how important it is! Everyone was happy if I just texted or called to check. I even offered a few people the option of taking a photo of their RSVP card and just emailing or texting it to me if getting to a post office was REALLY that difficult.


    Post # 8
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I was in the same boat as you….and ultimately only got back 1/3 of the RSVPs.  I was freaking out about my guests waiting til the last minute to reply b/c we left 10 days before our wedding to go to the destination.  So people could have rsvp’d but we wouldn’t have known.  Nobody actually did though!  

    I’ll tell you what my mom told me so I would calm down about it.  Airfare and hotels are expensive the closer you book them to your departure.  NOBODY is gonna say “hmm, I wanna go to the wedding now” and look at the higher prices and go ahead and book it.  So she told me to cancel out those people.  I would do the same if I were you.

    Also, we had a bunch of DH’s friends (from around the U.S.) that insisted we “invite” them b/c they would show….not a one returned the RSVP.  Pricks!

    Post # 9
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    People are just becoming more inconsiderate these days – I see it at work and I too have been/am dealing with it right now.  Our wedding is less than 50 days away and I am still waiting for 5 RSVPs. (We only invited 26 couples) Granted one is my brother and they didnt want to ruin the surprise that they are expecting again, but the other four couples – I agree with you – you either know you are coming or you dont so why not just send the RSVP back – it has a stamp on it.  For our situation, I have already cancelled these people out and I am not calling them either to put them on the spot.  Good luck I hope the postal carrier floods your mailbox today!!

    Post # 12
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee

    We received a lot of our responses AFTER the response date.  Why?  Because people thought that “respond by August 1” really meant “respond ON August 1.” I’m not kidding.  A lot of people like to wait until the last minute – especially when it comes to destination weddings.  As unfortunate as it is, looks like you’ll have to end up calling people.  If they STILL can’t give you a definitive answer, politely tell them that you are sorry to hear that but you needed your final count by x day. 


    @julies1949:  “Until they have been on the planning side of things, many people have no idea what the impact is of a late RSVP”   <<<YES!

    Post # 13
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @June232012:  i would not vote for any of your options since what i did when i was in your situation was email everyone who had not RSVP’d – not just the ones i thought would come.  I wrote an email just asking what their plans were as i didn’t want to assume they were not coming just because it was a destination. From those emails i wrote (pretty easy with copy and paste), i didn’t get one or two replies – THEN i discounted those 2 people as not coming and did not contact them further.

    Post # 15
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @June232012:  i hardly had any RSVP’s and i did them online – all they had to do was go to my wedding website and click yes or no!

    Post # 16
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I was not sure what to click in this one. I received rsvps but a few people, who I called to see if they got the invitation. One never received hers and a couple completely forgot to send it in.

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