(Closed) Timeline Conversation; Does This Mean I'm Waiting? (long)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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299 posts
Helper bee

I’m on the same timeline. So close but so far. I have no advice because I’m going through the exact same thing. You’re my waiting twin! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MadameX:  If you’re a self-proclaimed perfectionist then I’d suggest you start researching e-rings because you may not be happy with something your SO picks out for you and once he proposes it’s too late to do anything about it. A lot can happen in a year or two so don’t go booking or buying anything until he pops the question and it’s official, but it doesn’t hurt to daydream and start planning things out in your head.

Post # 6
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299 posts
Helper bee

@MadameX:  Lol we already picked our venu. I don’t think I’ll be able to sit around without at least starting an inspiration board. I’m lucky that my SO is totally accepting of my crazy ways. Lol 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MadameX:  If you’re anything like me (read: perfectionist to a fault) then you’ll want a say, if not the final say, in choosing/designing your ring. I’m very particular, so I searched the web, jewellery stores, recently engaged friends photos, etc to find what I wanted in an e-ring. When I found the one, I emailed the link to my SO and he thanked me for it. Saved him the time, trouble, hassle, frustration, confusion and risk of disappointing me with something I might not have loved, or even liked. We both know when the time comes for him to propose, I’m going to absolutely adore what I see when he pops the top on that box.

Post # 10
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1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you want to be involved in the process tell him. I wanted to know EXACTLY what ring I was getting because I am a control freak. We narrowed it down to 2 rings and I told him I preferred one over the other but I’d let “him pick” (LOL – he picked the right one.) Anyway – if it’s important just tell him… “I know this isn’t on the table quite yet but I want to be involved in selecting the ring..”

You can go look at rings on your own and then show him pictures of the same or similiar rings that you liked online (he doesn’t need to know you looked in person, or, go ahead and tell him!)

Also, you can start thinking about what kind of wedding you want. Decide a budget…a true realistic budget that you’re comfortable with and don’t get attached to any “big” ideas until you have your budget all worked out. I kick myself over and over that I picked a venue that ate up such a huge part of my initial budget.. I didn’t realize just HOW MUCH GOES INTO A WEDDING… because I was running out of time and had to pick a date and therefore a venue. I also got attached to ridiculous ideas.

You can put together a guest list in your head, you can pick our your dream wedding colors, etc, etc. You can definitely start to plan a wedding even though you don’t have a ring. You will be just ahead of the game! Be prepared for your plans to change. A year before we got engaged I had planned out my entire wedding…. (not kidding) We got engaged and I DID try to go with my initial plan but my fiance didn’t like the venue (go figure) so we change our ENTIRE FICTIONAL WEDDING I HAD ALREADY PLANNED. I didn’t want him to know just how much I had planned in my head but I totally had it all planned out. Oh well.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My advice. since he seems to be sensitive to you looking at wedding stuff, I’d downplay doing that, so he won’t feel that he can’t propose because you won’t be surprised. Read him to make sure he’s not the type to get gunshy if it’s talked about or overly anticipated.

Take your cues from him within reason. If you want to pick out the ring, feel him out by asking him if he had something in mind. It’ll be good to find out if he has a plan already–like giving you his great grandmother’s ring or something.

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