- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
This weekend was very exciting for me and my SO! My last post on here I had talked about wanting to intiate a conversation about a timeline with my SO. We’ve been together 9 months but it felt like whenever I tried to hint at brining up moving in together he would avoid getting into a discussion about it. Then Monday night I was getting tired of wondering and decided to just bring it up on the phone. I aksed him why he seemed to avoid talking about it. He was pretty open to talking and said that I’ve reopened the line of communication on moving in together and we should think about it and talk on our trip this weekend.
So fast forward to this weekend… We planned a 3 night trip of white water rafting and hiking. The first night at dinner he initiated the conversation by saying that in February he will have finished paying off his car and will have approx $1000/month to put towards saving for a wedding and honeymoon. He said that he knows I’m the one he wants to build his life with and have a family with, he’s done looking. Then he went on to say that in terms of us living together he thinks its best if I move into his condo and then when we are ready to start a family he would like to buy a house in the suburbs. He even suggested that we move closer to my mom because she will be a great help to us when we have children. I then brought up the timeline for having children and he said he thinks once I’m done with grad school we could start a family. I said thats probably best, but I’m not crazy about waiting until I’m 31 to start having kids, especially since we want several. I asked him if grad school was the only reason he was waiting and he said yes. And then said if I wanted to, he would get me pregnant that weekend (lol). He’s going to be 36 in a few weeks so for him he’s past ready to start a family. This left me with mixed feelings because I want to start a family so bad but I know it will be easier once I’m done with school.
Overall though, I was blown away by the conversation and I did not expect it to go so well. I can’t believe how nervous I was to bring it up, but now that I did, I’m so happy because he has shown me that we are on the same page and he’s 100% ready to settle down. The only thing I’m left wondering is if when he said he will start saving for a wedding and honeymoon… does that include the engagement ring or will he propose before Febraury? I’m hoping I don’t have to wait later than February to get engaged! This is so exciting but at the same time it’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders because I no longer am stressing about out future. I know we both want the same things and we are working towards them!