Post # 1
Here’s my story:
We’re getting engaged next month and would like to get married in Fall of 2016. During that time we’ll also be moving to another state. I’ll be looking for another job too, since we’re moving. We don’t know exactly when my SO will begin his new job in another state…could be anywhere from later this year to early 2016. Will this leave enough time for planning a Fall 2016 wedding? I’m worried no. But we’re really set on a Fall wedding and don’t want to wait until 2017. I have read timelines that say to start the process 12-15 months before the wedding date. And with us not knowing when we’re moving exactly, I don’t know how soon we can start the process, regarding booking venues in another state, finding a new church and meeting with the priest for premarital counseling beforehand.
We’re really excite to get married, I’ve already started buying things here and there for decor! We’ve started our guest list, and my Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been discussing bridal shower, bachelorette party stuff, etc.
I don’t know – what do you think will work best, based on your experiences?
Post # 2
you have two big questions to answer.
1. How much do you want to spend/ how much can you afford? How will you save when unemployed?
2. Maybe call a couple venues where you are moving. What is the wait time until they are available?
Post # 3
We are working on a budget – and the problem is, we won’t know exactly where in the state he’ll be relocated to until later this year.
Post # 4
Figure where you are living first. Then look into venues. With so many life changes maybe planning a wedding shouldn’t be the main focus at the moment. It’s great to buy decor stuff but what if you fall in love with a venue that the decor will not match? Sorry to be negative. Its obvious you are very excited to start
Post # 5
The first things you need to figure out are budget, and then book any vendor that needs to be reserved – venue, photographer, florist, officiant, DJ, etc. I took care of my dress early on and booked our hotel rooms early on, and I also sent save the dates immediatly. Just about everything else I took care of the last 4.5 months.
Post # 6
For us the thing that took the most time was identifying and meeting with venues/vendors. You really can’t do that until you know where you’ll be moving, unless you decide to do the wedding where you’re currently living/where you’re from (and thus have to travel for it) or have a destination wedding. Unfortunately, a lot of the detail decisions you’ll make will stem from these “foundation” decisions. For instance, our venue takes up at least 70% of our budget, since all the catering and everything is included in it, so we didn’t have a really good idea about how much we could spend on other things until we were able to negotiate those costs. Depending on how close to the fall you move, this could be really tricky.
I think timing in general will also depend on the area you move to and the type of venue you’d like and how many guests you want to invite. In our area venue spaces tend to be booked at least 10 months in advance during the wedding season (you may get lucky, since fall is off-season), and there were a very limited number in our area that had space for the number of guests we would like to invite without being too big or just not meshing with the vibe we wanted.
I’m not getting married in a church, so I didn’t do pre-wedding counselling but a friend of mine did it for her wedding at her local church, even though she was married somewhere else. The priest had to sign some documents saying everything had been done, but otherwise it was fine. You could always talk to your priest about doing it that way and this would be something you could already start now.
As soon as you know where you’ll be going, I would start researching venues to get more information about the costs in the area. The other details – flowers, dress, tuxedos, photographer – should be able to be done on shorter notice, but you may end up spending more since there will be less time to negotiate prices/shop around.
That said, with the stress of moving and job-hunting, it may not be the best time to plan a wedding, particularly if you’ll be moving to an area where you don’t have a support structure.