(Closed) Timeline too long for a wedding with no dancing?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I would definitely prefer to go with four hours to build in some buffer time just in case something goes wrong than do three and feel rushed!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m curious about this as well. We have our venue space for 5hrs, not including ceremony and like you, I don’t plan on having much, if any, dancing as there isn’t a ton of space for it. We aren’t doing a DJ, but plan on having some playlists ready to go.

I assume my guests will just chat and drink and whatever else to fill the time, but maybe I’m being optimistic!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

what type of dinner service will you have (plated table service/ buffet/ stations etc) and how many people? that will really effect the time it takes to eat

 

for instance if you only have one buffet line and 150 ppl it is going to take probably close to 30-40 min for everyone to get their food

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

When we sat down with the day-of-coordinator to plan out the timeline of our wedding she scheduled 45 minutes for dinner. From the start time of our ceremony to the end of dinner/toasts is about 2.5 hours. If you are also going to do the cake before going to the after party, I think 3 hours will be just about perfect.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 4 hrs is fine. When I go out with friends to a restaurant, we can easily spend 2 hours just chatting and eating. If it’s 3 hours for the reception, that will fly by.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

We only have 40 guests so while there’s space to dance Im thinking that not many will be dancing. Definitely will have music. Our venue is 5 hours including the ceremony, cocktail hour and reception from 5pm – 10pm but we’ve decided to use the first hour for photos and start the ceremony at 6pm instead. 5 hours just seems like a bit much! Ceremonies are short, cocktails are only for one hour and dinner is plated so probably wont take more than an hour if that long. People might start hitting the road around 9 which is fine with us.

What type of dinner are you having? If its buffet or station style that might stretch the time out a little with lines, choosing different options and possible multiple trips to get food. 

Curious to see experienced answers. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I wouldn’t worry about 4 hours being too long. People will almost certainly be finished eating at least an hour before the end time, but then after dinner people will want time to mingle and talk. If you do 3 hours, people will probably feel like they are being rushed to eat and get out. So 4 hours is perfect!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

MiniMeow:  Oh OK. That’s definitely not long, so you have no reason to worry. If anything it will probably seem fast, even without dancing. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

MiniMeow:  It depends on the guest list and dinner service. With 40 people I think 4 hours is fine. You’ll have 30 minutes for ceremony, and hour of cocktail, dinner (usually an hour, but with 40 people maybe a little less), after dinner you can do toasts and cut the cake/eat cake. That leaves you with a little time to mingle or everyone can leave. Just because you have the space for 4 hours doesn’t mean you need to force everyone to stay that long. Just let the event flow naturally. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MiniMeow:  We had our venue for about 6 hours.  While dancing was offered, not to many people danced.  We had to “chase” our last guests out.  People wanted to sit around and socialize.  As long as you have water/drinks people will sit around and talk. 

We did have some other people leave early, but most of them had young children/a long drive home. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Considering your reply posts, when you say you have the dinner portion coming in at 2-2 1/2  hours, I feel like that is long.  What is the break down of this segment of time? Cocktails ? Seating? Aprox. 2-3 courses, cake?

I would try to max it at 2 hours with all that. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

MiniMeow: I’m so glad you asked – I was actually concerned about this as well. I was thinking about adding an extra hour (right now we are only being offered 4) we have about 80-100 people. Seeing the way pp have broken it down have helped a lot. 

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