Post # 1
Was rereading some old posts and saw some posts about timelines coming and going. Was curious about this since it relates to my own situation. Have other bees SOs asked for extensions to the timelines etc.? My SO has asked for extensions (he gave me one timeline but I was impatient and asked for a shorter one and he asked for extensions on that within the original timeline, but essentially in the end he still needs an extension on his original one), and each time before he said he felt like he thought he was going to be ready etc. and said the right things but couldn’t seem to propose when it came down to it – later he said he felt really pressured and was telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. He also gave me some reasons for why that he later said weren’t true but he just felt really under pressure and that’s why he said them. We were fighting lots then, and I was bringing up engagement etc. several times a day, and it was a really unhappy time for both of us.
Now I’ve laid off and he says it is coming (without me prompting or asking) and his behavior toward me and the situation and such actually seems to be changing but I think I’m scared to believe that anything will happen until it actually does, if that makes sense. We’re not fighting anymore (we only ever fought about engagement stuff) and things are really good with us right now.
Anyway, I added a poll for fun – looking forward to reading what others dealt with – this ISN’T for feedback like “I think you should leave him” (I already have a walk date in mind) – I’m more interested in “this was my experience with timelines, etc.” Thanks!
Post # 3
Mine was very much within timeline, first he told me it would happen this year, but I am not very good with guessing and I wanted him to be more specific, then he told me he was planning it to be in the first half of the year, and then he was more specific and said it would be in the first three months. It happened in the first month, I was very lucky 🙂
Post # 4
Haha. I think you should add an option for “Timeline? We don’t need no stinkin’ timelines!” 🙂
Post # 5
@Elvis: Haha I will!!! Thanks, your posts always cheer me up!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
Mine was well within timeline (: He said in the fall that it would happen by the end of winter and he proposed at the end of January.
Post # 7
We were within the timeline. I don’t remember what the timeline was now that we’re married, but I was well aware of when the proposal was coming, down to the week!
Post # 8
Well the end of my timeline hasn’t come yet so I can’t say if it’s been met or not. He tells me he has every intention of meeting it, so let’s hope so!
I had originally set other “want to be engaged by X” deadlines, but something always happened to make me extend them. The biggest one was when I got laid off, went back to school and then didn’t go back to work ’till just recently (June). That put a lot of financial pressure on him, although – as I’ve reminded him numerous times – he’s had almost 6 years to save up for the ring!!!
Post # 9
I’m in a different category than any listed. My SO didn’t meet the original timeline. He was talking in relative timelines to begin with though so nothing was set in stone to begin with. But that relative timeline was pushed back since I was pushing and had anxiety and we were struggling with communication. Now I believe the timeline is by the end of this year or he says “extremely likely” so I guess I’m in a “to be continued category now for the 2nd timeline”. The waiting saga continues……
Post # 10
@biochic75: You know I’m in the same category as you!
Post # 11
We were within our original timeline. Due to arguing over engagement and all of that, I thought our original timeline was over and done….so I set a walk date. WELP!….he made things happen WELLLLL before then