- String Cheese
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Thank you in advance just for reading this post, and, hopefully, for replying!
I can be a strong woman who is capable of making up her mind. I appreciate having a sounding board, want to hear others’ opinions, and recently really came to embrace the idea of our union as being a rite of passage. I’m excited about being engaged, looking forward to getting married– and would love it if a fairy godmother would drop down and magically make the whole thing happen (especially if aforementioned fairy godmother would foot the bills, too!)!
Regardless of the reason (though, I’m trying to determine the underlying reason!), we have not made any real headway in our planning! We’ll be getting married twice, once by a JOP/ a legal official and once for the big party that we want! My SO is incredibly busy, so, as tradition has often dictated (why??!), the bulk of the planning will fall to me. He’s great for bouncing ideas off of, but really more so for listening as opposed to actually giving feedback. He’s in agreement regarding any of the the dates that we’ve discussed, though not terribly excited about having 2 different events (for the 2 ceremonies); he’s open about the location and dates, overall.
I have never planned any events worth mentioning! The idea of how much all of this will cost is certainly difficult to swallow– certainly a much bigger deal than planning a cookout at our place! We really don’t have much money and that, of course, has also been a factor regarding planning. Though we haven’t settled on a location (or even a state!), we feel ready (i.e. get married in 2010 not 2011)! It just seems that every time we think we’re close, I come up with a new idea. Or something else happens! For example, we had been toying with the idea of a destination wedding (to a typical destination-wedding locale, such as a beach, etc.), when I realized that, almost regardless of where we have it, it will be a destination wedding for us (and make it more expensive for us, too, since we’ll have to pay for transportation, etc.). We will probably be moving in the next few months, but won’t know where until late fall.
Who has advice regarding making the plunge and finally committing? How do you know when to finally commit to a venue? to a location? When do you say ‘enough is enough’, accept that perfection may not be easy to come by, and commit– move forward, and let the planning really begin?
I know I sound crazy (I’m re-reading my post now– I know I sound crazy), and I’d love to know how to proceed or that I’m not alone, or anything that might help! Thanks, super bees!