Post # 1
I’m full of questions today. What is your ideal timespan between babies? If you have multiple, how long did you wait and would you do it the same if you could have a do-over? My brother and I are 5 years apart and are super close. Hubby and his sister are only 13 months apart (also close). He’s pushing for sooner rather than later. I’m 34 so it will be sooner but with a 6-month-old, pregnancy isn’t exactly at the top of my list right now.
Post # 3
I think around 2-3 years is great because it isn’t too far apart that kids aren’t interested in the same types of things, but they aren’t so close together that it is overwhelming for the parents or they are in close competition.
Post # 4
I have been wondering about that as well. It seems like such a limited window for me because I don’t want the kids to be too far apart in age, but I also don’t want to be dealing with 2 kids in diapers, pushing a double stroller, shoving two carseats in (okay, probably not getting around that one), etc.
My aunt had two kids 5 years apart, and after she got pregnant (although it was planned) the second time, she was like, what was I thinking? Her older kid was out of diapers, going to school, and she could reclaim part of her life, and now she had to start all over with a baby
So I don’t know. I guess I’ll just have to start with this one (due in Sept) and see how I feel after that.
Post # 5
My brother and I are 18 months apart. My husband and his brother are 7 years apart in age. We’d like to have them 2 years apart at most. We’ll see how we feel once we get pregnant and have the first one before deciding on a second. Either way, we’re hoping for only a couple of years apart.
Post # 6
Me and my sister are about 2.5 years apart and my sister and brother are also about 2.5 years apart and I think that worked out really well for my family.
Darling Husband and his sister are about 4 years apart and that also worked well.
So we’ll probably shoot for somewhere in the 2.5 – 4 years timespan in between children.
Post # 7
Fiance and his brother are 5 years apart and that didn’t work out great for them, my brother and I are 2 years and that worked out okay. My Maid/Matron of Honor and her sister are less than a year apart and they are super tight and though it was rocky during the middle school years, they love each other very much.
I think 2 is a nice, safe distance.
Post # 8
My sister and I are 2.5 years apart and my brother and I are 2.5 years apart (I’m the middle child). I’m not sure if it’s just my family or not, but my sister and I don’t get along at all. My brother lives 1/2 the country away, so when he does actually feel like talking, then we’re civil with each other. LOL I’m pretty sure that’s just my family, because anyone else that has siblings that close in age get along just fine.
However, the complete opposite side of that is my husband and his siblings. They are all about 5 years apart and they get along great. So we might be shooting for that.
Post # 9
We’re also thinking 2 or 3 years. I’m 31, and will be 32 when Timbit is born. If I wait 2 years to get pregnant again I’ll be about 35 when the second one comes along, and I don’t really want the higher risk of medical issues that comes with pregancies over age 35.
Post # 10
We’d like 3-4 years between kids. It seems to make the most sense financially – less time when we are paying for both of them to be in daycare at the same time, and less time that they would be in college at the same time!
Post # 11
I would like to wait atleast a year after having this one to get pregnant with the next. My issue more than anything is giving my body the time needed to go back to normal.
Post # 12
I’d like to give my body about 2 years to recover from pregnancy/1 year to recover from nursing, before subjecting it (and, frankly, DH) to another onslaught of hormones. And 2.5-3.5 yrs means the kids will be in the same school (same school schedule, usually there are discounts involved if you have 2 kids in school at once, etc.), and that also means that we’ll be able to have at least 3 kids (with 2.5-3.5 yr age gap between each) before I turn 35.
If we were to adopt future kiddos (which is definitely on the table at this point, probably for child #3), the age gap seems to be less of an issue, and 1 year apart would be ok with me, maybe even ideal, depending on what other factors are involved.
Post # 13
@red_seattle: I didn’t even think about the breastfeeding….. yea I think I’d like to let my poor breasts get back to “normal” and rested before another pregnancy. lol
Post # 14
@candicemcc: I am also in my 30’s. Will be 32 a week or so after baby is born and hubby is 34. For age reasons…and because I cannot afford to stay home for years and years….and really want to have both kids as soon as posible. (after the 2nd is born, I can finish grad school and start my career working full-time)
I don’t know how I will feel once I actually have a baby I am caring for…..but currently I am thinking of getting pregnant when the baby is 8-10 months old. NEVER did I think I would be someone with two kids under 2….but I think that is how it will turn out
Post # 15
I’m hoping to have around 2 years between our babies. I know I need some time to forget about the hell of pregnancy and childbirth, and just enjoy the baby before I will want another one.
Post # 16
@runsyellowlites: ha breasts dont get back to normal after nursing..hahaha
I had 4 years between my 2 and it was perfect no jealousy and DS was somewhat independant at some stuff like getting shoes on sippy cups from fridge etc..and he was in nursery school so i got rest time with the babe..
Fiance and i are not going to try but not prevent leave it up to God and whatever happens after the wedding..Im mid thirties…But that could mean a 10 year gap between babe 1 and 3..yikes..lol