Post # 1
We are exactly one year out from the wedding, and starting about 3 weeks ago, future Father-In-Law started getting on me about how we need to be sending out save the dates.
I was not planning on doing them until like November for our June 2013 wedding. At the very earliest August, because that is when we are doing engagement pics, and I wanted to include one on the STD.
But he keeps bringing it up that they need to go out. I’m busy working two jobs right now and I can’t really push something up on my timeline. I just wanna yell that if he is the one who cares so much, why doesnt HE do it, or at least badger Fiance to do it instead of me. He is getting married to, you know?
Its just so annoying that the bride is expected to do everything. I think it should be a team effort of the couple and their families, you know? You want something done before I was planning to do it? then you handle it!
I asked Fiance if he could do it and he said he would be happy to send out an email. fine by me, not fine by future Father-In-Law apparently. ugh
Any way that I can convince him that they do NOT have to go out quite this far in advance? people will be traveling but not across the country or anything.
Post # 3
Typically 6-9 months before the wedding. It’s all dependent on how many Out of Town guests you will have and if you wedding falls on a holiday.
6 months tends to be more standard.
Post # 4
Our wedding is in March and our E-Pics are in July…I was planning on using one of those pics for the Save-The-Date Cards and sending them out in early September. (6 months)
Post # 5
I’m about 5 months out and I still haven’t done mine yet! I’m waiting for us to take e-pics because I also wanted to include them on the Save-The-Date Cards and our appointment for this is next sat! So I’m looking at not even getting the Save-The-Date Cards out until mid July!!! If they weren’t necessary for my situation (Having my wedding during Thanksgiving weekend) I would have skipped this step. Ignore him. Do your e-pics and then send them out. Honestly, I would possibly want to send them out either before or after the holidays not during. They may get lost or mixed in with holiday greeting cards. Also if you notify the guests too soon, they will forget. I think 6 months before is a good time.
Post # 6
I think you’re right and Fiance is a little early. I doubt people are going to book flights/airfare a full year in advance. I think around October/November would be fine as that gives your guests time to hunt down a good deal. Are you doing an expensive exotic location in high season? If so, I guess the argument could be made that you should send them out earlier so people can save up the money to go.
One reason to not do them this early is that perhaps you will find out that you’re not really close to so and so but now it’s too late because you sent them a STD a year in advance and 6 months from now, you’re like, “Wow, I haven’t talked to so and so in six months, why am I inviting him/her again?” That happened to friends of ours. He invited some friends (about 7 months prior to the wedding – DW) and by the time it was the wedding, he didn’t even talk to one of them and the friend had dropped off the face of the earth and the other one hadn’t really talked to him since he was invited and did a last minute rsvp change to no in the end.