Post # 1
After the requisite amount of time trying my doctor gave me a referral to a specialist. No tests done by my own doctor other than some basic STD testing since the fertility clinic will apparently ask for that.
Is there an ideal time of the month to schedule a visit? I was thinking first available but actually the first available is next week and my husband will be traveling. It may be tough to find a time for both our schedules due to our work. I am about a week out from my next period so would be going right before CD1. Should I go alone? I am just assuming it would be better to have my husband there or maybe required? I forgot to ask when making the appointment and just scheduled it for now so I have it on calendar.
Better to go for an initial consult now before my next cycle or wait until hubby can come too, which may be another cycle or two — if so, are there any times to aim for during cycle for an appointment or it does not really matter?
Post # 3
did you ask the RE if they would like you to bring your husband? Mine said it would be ideal for husband to be present but not absolutely necessary. After doing RE workup I would go before your period as they will likely want to do Day 3 labs. Otherwise you would have to wait another cycle.
Post # 4
My first RE appointment is May 30th. It was the earliest available date. While scheduling, I asked if my husband needed to be present and was told no because this is just a consultation. We both do have to fill out medical history forms online and fax any relevant documents from the OB/urologist. Call and ask.
I didn’t want to waste my husband having to take a day off from work if he absolutely didn’t need to be there. The appointment falls a week after my next period (assuming I don’t get a BFP this cycle! Wishful thinking!). Since it’s just a consultation, I didn’t really think it mattered where I was in my cycle. It was mostly important to just get in the door first and form a plan.
Post # 5
Take the first available. They’ll just go over your history, talk about your TTC efforts to date, talk about a plan and schedule initial tests. The tests may be cycle dependent, but the first appointment won’t be. It can be really hard to get appointments around here, so I’d take the first available! Also, it takes…. forever … to get things moving because everything is cycle dependent. Good luck!
Post # 6
Thank you bees for all the good advice! I ended up keeping appointment and went alone. Very glad I did because I’m at the beginning of my cycle and got a peek at my ovaries and AMH testing right away. Going back in a couple days for Day 3 tests and HSG a few days later. It would have been frustrating to have to wait a full additional cycle to start all the tests
It it sounds like it will make more sense for my hubby to join once we have all our tests back and talk about what it all means. And I liked the doctor so would have been a waste for him to come if I didn’t.
I appreciate all the thoughtful responses and various points of view.
Post # 7
littlefig : Nice update, and thanks for asking this question. I have a feeling that something like this might be in my future and it’s nice to know what to expect.
Post # 8
littlefig : Did they order a sperm analysis for him? Sounds like they got you set up for all your tests! I’m glad you got in and were able to get the process moving quickly.
Post # 9
MargaritaVille : thanks! Fingers crossed this won’t be in your future but glad it’s helpful in case
MrsBG : you’re right! I left that very key part out. Yes he will be tested too 🙂 Thanks for checking.