(Closed) Timing of my wedding and FSIL's wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It would be ok if FH brings it up that she should have her wedding a couple months before or after yours because family will have to fly in both times. Asking more than that would be considered rude.

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee

you can discuss this with your parents in law and see what they think, since you already planning your wedding and you are the first one to do it, you should not change your date. the best way to do it is to discuss this with them first

Post # 6
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think your fiance should discuss this with his family. You shouldn’t be the one suggesting a longer engagement for your Future Sister-In-Law, even if his parents (and even your FSIL) would welcome the idea! I think just talk with your fiance about this, and get him to sort it out with his family.

Post # 7
7735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see why your Future Sister-In-Law should be bound by your culture’s tradition/belief of one wedding per year. She’s not of your culture and is not marrying into it. So if she wants a wedding next year, you can talk to her but you can’t stop her.

Also, it might be a rushed wedding due to pregnancy. Or they might just want a short engagement.

Post # 8
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have never heard of a culture that does not believe in family members getting married in the same year. Also, it’s not your sibling that’s getting married so I don’t understand how the ‘bad luck’ could affect you.

ETA: getting engaged first, or dating for longer does not make your engagement or wedding anymore important or valid than theirs. Unless they choose a very close date, you’re not really within any rights to ask then to postpone.

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