(Closed) Timing of wedding/choosing a date

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not sure… it seems a bit close. I’m assuming there’s a lot of overlap with guests?

I’ve run into a similar issue with my cousin (marrying August 15th -ish) and my stepson’s mother (October 10th) for choosing my wedding date for next year.  I found about half way in between comfortable for me. However, there will be only a 1-6 guests going to mine and one of the others’ wedding. 

June is nice in MN! I would choose early June, though, right before it gets too humid.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

if guests are travelling out of town, it might be a convenience to have the dates closer together 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Squirrelz15:  I don’t think it’s a big deal, if people aren’t travelling hours and hours to get there (2 hours is not far imo) then it’s ok. I would recommend doing yours after the cousin though rather than before because doing it right before when theirs is already planned might be a bit thunder-stealing.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Squirrelz15:  Talking to his cousin is a good idea!  Some people don’t care about this stuff, so you might easily be able to get away with a wedding two weekends after their’s.  This way you feel less worried about the timing you want.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I would probably avoid the date 2 weeks before their wedding… “you only get one day” blah blah blah, but if their date has been set for a while, that does seem a little bit like stealing their fire to me.  I think you’d be fine to do 2 weeks after it though. 

Squirrelz15:  

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Squirrelz15:  I know EXACTLY what you mean.  I’m stuck on September, and waiting two years would be killer on my “patience.”  Good luck!  Let me know what she says 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you are going to do it close to their wedding, I would do it after instead of before theirs

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Definitely after, but 2 weeks does seem a little close. Will they be back from they honeymoon and such to attend yours? Are there any wedding party overlaps? Do you think that’s enough time for you guys given that your FI is involved in theirs? It might be a stressful time to have two weddings back to back (essentially).

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Squirrelz15:  Personally I’d say it’s too close, weddings are expensive for guests and some may decide to do one or the other. I agree with PP that if you decdie to do it defintiely go with two weeks after.

My brother is getting married three months after me and I feel like that’s too close but mine is destination for all the guests and his is somewhat destination 2, hour drive at a beach location .

I know a couple who the sister got married one week and then her brother got married the next week and no one batted an eye.

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