Post # 1
My future Mr and I are having a Catholic wedding next year. Determined to make it as easy as possible for everyone coming, we’re having a Saturday (for travel/work purposes) 1ishpm (Catholic requirement purposes) ceremony. I’m planning on having an hour between the end of the ceremony (about 2) and the start of the reception (therefore, about 3) where people can go to our reception site and chill or run errands (I know I usually end up using that time to go buy that wedding gift i completely forgot about) or just hang around.
I want to serve dinner at my reception and have dancing and cake and all those traditional thinkgs, but with the reception starting so early, dinner would obviously not be right away. I was wondering if you ladies (and gentlemen if there are any hanging around) have any suggestions on how to structure our reception. Cake first? followed by dancing, followed by dinner last? (inverted reception). Hor d’oeurves (i don’t think i got that right) and dancing until dinner around 5:30 or 6 followed almost immediately by cake/dessert?
Post # 3
I think hor d’oeurves and dancing first would be great and then dinner and cake.
Post # 4
I’m surprised that some people are all about the gap. Would people prefer a wedding w/ no gap but a weird structure or a regular reception and a huge gap? From the point of view as a guest, not the bride 😉
Post # 5
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I haven’t been to a wedding with a gap, especially if I was from out of town, I might think it was a little weird and not know what to do with myself – for you situation, I think definitely having appetizers and dancing first, and then dinner and cake later would be perfectly fine
Post # 6
Wait, so where would you physically be located during this ‘dinner and appetizer’ gap? Taking pictures, right? Honestly, I would just let them fend for themselves during the gap. If you relaly want to, set up a ‘game room’ or something that’s optional if they have no other choices.
Post # 7
@moderndaisy we’re thinking we’ll give people an hour to get from the church to the reception hall. That will give us time to go to the park and take a couple more pictures, but we probably will spend most of that “cocktail hour” (i think is what it usually is) at the reception hall. We’ll be at the reception for the dinner and appetizers. We’re planning on doing our pictures before the ceremony.
Post # 8
As a guest, I’m not a huge fan of the gap. I’d prefer appetizers and dancing to start the reception, then dinner and cake. I think you could serve dinner as early as 5.
Post # 9
I’m with @owlbride, love the apps & dancing, then start dinner early (around 5pm). Since your wedding starts at 1pm, most people will have eaten lunch early (if I were your guest, I’d have brunch around 11ish to make sure I was on time), so they may be hungry earlier than usual (I know I get hungry about 4-5 hours after I eat lunch), so an early dinner could work. As for cake right after dinner, I’m a fan…I usually look for the desserts about 5 minutes after finishing my meal at weddings, but that’s partly because I love wedding cake!
Post # 10
Lots of Catholic brides are faced with this dliema since most parishes have the Saturday service… Its either 1, 3 or 6 o’clock — no highly desired 4.30 5.30 here!
I say unless you havea lot of out of towners, don’t mind the gap!
The upside to the gap is you get LOTS of time to get pics with you and your hubby. You can go to a couple locations, even go grab a drink somewhere with you and your bridal party! I hear a lot of my friends wish they had more time for photos and especialy more time for just them and the hubby – fewer bridal party, more married couple.
Personally, having been to a reception where it started early… dancing in daylight was kinda odd… I think people are justed to used to dancing afterwards, when they are loosened up, more comfortable and not to mention, having consumed a few drinks…
Instead of dancing, perhaps do appetizers and games? board games, bean bags, horseshoes, carnival kind of stuff. I’d do that before I danced at 4o’clock. Cake? I’ll eat that anytime!
Post # 11
@gibsonkk, that’s a good point. I hadn’t thought about dancing in the daylight. I’m actually not super into dancing anyways so maybe we could just have fun in ways other than dancing at the reception like the games you suggested or something. We’ll have to talk it over. probably can’t do horseshoes on the hardwood floors and I don’t want to count on being able to go outside (our weather is pretty fickle–always).
That’s a great idea though, i like it 🙂
Post # 12
Is there anything fun and touristy near where you are getting married? Friends of mine are having a New York City traditional Catholic wedding with a gap. During the gap, they’ve hired a tour bus to take guests on a tour around the city (if they want to go). It keeps them busy and entertained or they can choose to relax at their hotel or something in between. Just a thought!
Post # 13
I think whatever you pick would be fine. I’m used to the gap, so it wouldn’t bother me. I think the most important thing is that you keep people fed. Guests might assume that the reception will flow like it normally does, so they might be expecting food in the beginning. If you have enough hors douevres, then that should cover it until dinner.
Other things that I’ve done during a gap: A family or friend in the area can host your guests for some drinks and snacks during the gap. you could set up a hospitality suite. put ideas of where to go or what to do in Out of Town bags.