(Closed) Timing the Reception–No Gap Style

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How to structure the early evening (mostly late afternoon) reception?
    Inverted Reception : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Dancing/fun followed by dinner and cake at the end : (14 votes)
    56 %
    Other? : (3 votes)
    12 %
    What the heck are you thinking? just go for the gap and have a normal reception like everyone else : (7 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think hor d’oeurves and dancing first would be great and then dinner and cake.

    Post # 5
    Bee
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I haven’t been to a wedding with a gap, especially if I was from out of town, I might think it was a little weird and not know what to do with myself – for you situation, I think definitely having appetizers and dancing first, and then dinner and cake later would be perfectly fine

    Post # 6
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Wait, so where would you physically be located during this ‘dinner and appetizer’ gap? Taking pictures, right? Honestly, I would just let them fend for themselves during the gap. If you relaly want to, set up a ‘game room’ or something that’s optional if they have no other choices.

    Post # 8
    Member
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    As a guest, I’m not a huge fan of the gap. I’d prefer appetizers and dancing to start the reception, then dinner and cake. I think you could serve dinner as early as 5.

    Post # 9
    Member
    950 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m with @owlbride, love the apps & dancing, then start dinner early (around 5pm).  Since your wedding starts at 1pm, most people will have eaten lunch early (if I were your guest, I’d have brunch around 11ish to make sure I was on time), so they may be hungry earlier than usual (I know I get hungry about 4-5 hours after I eat lunch), so an early dinner could work.  As for cake right after dinner, I’m a fan…I usually look for the desserts about 5 minutes after finishing my meal at weddings, but that’s partly because I love wedding cake! Wink

    Post # 10
    Member
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Lots of Catholic brides are faced with this dliema since most parishes have the Saturday service… Its either 1, 3 or 6 o’clock — no highly desired 4.30 5.30 here!

    I say unless you havea  lot of out of towners, don’t mind the gap!

    The upside to the gap is you get LOTS of time to get pics with you and your hubby. You can go to a couple locations, even go grab a drink somewhere with you and your bridal party! I hear a lot of my friends wish they had more time for photos and especialy more time for just them and the hubby – fewer bridal party, more married couple.

    Personally, having been to a reception where it started early… dancing in daylight was kinda odd… I think people are justed to used to dancing afterwards, when they are loosened up, more comfortable and not to mention, having consumed a few drinks…

    Instead of dancing, perhaps do appetizers and games? board games, bean bags, horseshoes, carnival kind of stuff. I’d do that before I danced at 4o’clock. Cake? I’ll eat that anytime!

    Post # 12
    Member
    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Is there anything fun and touristy near where you are getting married? Friends of mine are having a New York City traditional Catholic wedding with a gap. During the gap, they’ve hired a tour bus to take guests on a tour around the city (if they want to go). It keeps them busy and entertained or they can choose to relax at their hotel or something in between. Just a thought!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think whatever you pick would be fine. I’m used to the gap, so it wouldn’t bother me. I think the most important thing is that you keep people fed. Guests might assume that the reception will flow like it normally does, so they might be expecting food in the beginning. If you have enough hors douevres, then that should cover it until dinner.

    Other things that I’ve done during a gap: A family or friend in the area can host your guests for some drinks and snacks during the gap. you could set up a hospitality suite. put ideas of where to go or what to do in Out of Town bags.

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