Post # 1
i have a tendency to overthink things, and need a gut check.
im going on 4 years married, my husband and I own our home, are happily settled down and have been talking about when we’d like to start TTC for a couple of years now. I will be 30 next year.
ive been at my current company for a year and a half, and while I like it, I know it’s not forever. However, i would like to have my first baby while at this company, rather than starting the clock over somewhere else to earn paid maternity leave.
ive been off BCP for 1 month, but we are not yet trying. I would theoretically like to start after the holidays. After I quit the pill, I found out about a job opening with another team in my office. This would be a promotion / transfer in the same office, working with many of the same people just for a different boss. I’ve known the boss and have worked with her for 6 months, and have known the leaders above her for my entire 18 months with this company.
if I take the job in the new year, am I still able to TTC or will it be frowned upon to take the job in January and have a baby at the end of 2019? I really don’t want to delay…but I’m not sure if I should treat an internal move like I would a job at a different company and “earn my stripes” first ☹️
Post # 2
Keep in mind TTC doesn’t guarantee you will get pregnant on your timeline. It could take one month, it could take 12.
Don’t base your TTC timeline on your job, because nothing is guaranteed with TTC. Hubby and I thought it would take us a while and we were surprised when I got pregnant our second cycle, which didn’t go over too well with what happened at work not even two weeks after I found out I was pregnant.
Like i said, nothing is guaranteed.
Post # 3
ladyvk : I know…this is exactly why I’m worried about delaying. miscarriages and IVF are common in my extended family, so I’m well aware it could be a long process
Post # 4
imsandradee : then don’t delay. I think you’ve been at your company a decent amount of time. I was only hitting the end of my probation when I found out I was pregnant so there are worse things than being there as long as you have.
Post # 5
I would say go for it. It took me 2.5 years to get pregnant with my first and I changed jobs twice in that time. No regrets at all.
It is an internal move too so not like you’re leaving and having to earn the paid leave at a new company.
Post # 6
imsandradee : I would go ahead with the new job and TTC especially since it won’t impact your access to paid maternity leave. I was 8 months into TTC when I started over completely at a new job that requires you to be there 2 years before they will pay for maternity leave (although I live in Massachusetts so my job would have been protected for a minimum of 8 weeks based on our state law even if I got pregnant the first month I started). I ended up getting paid leave because it took THAT look to finally get pregnant. My advice to most people is to have a savings cushion and live your life while TTC. If you assume you won’t qualify for paid leave because of a job move then it will be a nice bonus if you do!
Post # 7
I say go for the job. Don’t let your life stop because you are TTC’ing