Post # 1
I am curious, is anyone else thinking about timing when you give birth if you’re TTC? Both of our families live in MI and we always spend a week there over Christmas & New Years so I suggested we skip a few months of TTC but Darling Husband said who cares, if you’re too far along to travel they can come to us or we can have our own Christmas here in Jersey! I know we have to start our own traditions at some point but the thought of not spending the Holidays with our families breaks my heart, is anyone else debating this?
A little bit of background… I am 29, Darling Husband is 33, we were just married in October and are only on our second cycle of TTC, or as my doctor called it, Russian Roulette… I know with some, you’ve been TTC for a while so I know that would also be a factor…
Post # 3
i’m not ttc yet, but i probably would take a break for a month or two. i wouldn’t want my kid to end up with a christmas birthday!
Post # 4
@kitzy: I wouldn’t either, kids who are born around Christmas tend to feel a bit cheated I think.. Anyone born around Christmas? Did it bother you as a kid?
Post # 5
We’re due any day now but we did decide to start trying at a time that would hopefully keep us from delivering super close to Christmas. It wasn’t for travel reasons but more because I didn’t want the baby’s birthday to be within days of Christmas.
Post # 6
My plan was to do this. We (Ok really *I*) timed our TTC so to hopefully have a Spring baby… or Summer if it took a little longer. I always said we’d stop to avoid a Late Nov, Dec, Jan, early Feb birthday. For my own little silly reasons. Yes the avoid a child having a ‘Christmas’ birthday – but not only for the child but also I don’t want the stress of birthday planning every year in the midst of the holiday hoopla 🙂
But then reality sets in and you’re on the 5th or 6th cycle of trying – and each month the disappoint increases – and the desire to ‘make it happen’ intensifies – and I’m not so sure we would have stopped.
Luckily we didn’t have to make that decision on the first go around 🙂 But I’m sure I’ll have the same mindset for take II 🙂
Post # 7
@candicemcc: I think if we don’t have any luck this month or next, which would put me due the end of October or November I’m going to want to wait until May.. It seems so far away though!
Post # 8
I don’t think its a bad idea if you and your husband are early on TTC and really want to time things.
I wouldn’t do it based around traveling to see your family though. Your husband is right, they would be more than happy to come see you if you are going to have a new baby!
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Post # 10
My birthday is a couple days before Christmas, but my mom’s birthday is even closer, so she always made sure to make my birthday a big deal since it was so close to Christmas and she knew what I would go through. Now, its the hubs turn to make sure my birthday is special! He fell a little short this year, but onyl due to money constraints
Post # 11
My birthday is very close to Christmas. I also share my birthday with my sister, who is 7 years older than I am. Double whammy.
I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, as long as it’s made known throughout your son/daughter’s life that that is THEIR day, it’s not a “I’ll combine your birthday with your Christmas presents” day.
In having our birthday so close to Christmas, it was always made a point to celebrate the two separately. If we were born at any other time of the year, that’s what would happen, so why not in late December as well? Also, since we share our birthday, our parents always made sure we had two separate cakes, etc and were individually sung to and recognized etc.
It’s all what you make of it!
Post # 12
@MrsSl82be: Yeah, as parents I think we would just have to make sure it is kept separate and made special.. One bonus would be that in the future we would be around family and the kid would have their cousins to celebrate their birthday’s with!
Post # 13
ooh I WANT a Christmas baby 🙂
hoping in times out so that I do, hehe
Post # 14
We are SO on the fence about this.
In our circle of family and friends we have TWELVE birthdays in between November and December and then the holidays. Sigh.
So ideally we do not want a November or December baby.
However, given that we feel we will have complications I also do not want to throw two months away either.
I guess it’s time my husband and I have heart to heart about this!
Post # 15
Haha, I’m the opposite — I want my kid to be born later in the year (September and beyond). There isn’t even a reason, really… my brother, sister, and I were all born late in the year and it just feels normal to me. For this reason, I’ve decided that I am going to go off my birth control around our one-year anniversary in September so that we might be pregnant around December/January-ish. Or something. This could totally not work but it’s what I’m thinking. 🙂
Post # 16
Darling Husband and I aren’t trying to concieve yet but it would likely depend on how long we’d been trying. I do think it would be nice to avoid having a child with a birthday around the holidays because I would hate to have a birthday around the holidays and wouldn’t want to do that to my own kids. Maybe when we decide to start TTC, we’ll start in the early summer so that we have a while to be unsuccessful before we’d have a kid with a holiday birthday.