Post # 16
I got a husband on tinder. He’s educated, successful, owns a mid size construction company and so attractive 😍
However, I think if you’re not answering in a timely manner, most people would get bored and move on. I work in sales and we live in a world where instant gratification is expected. So I think you’d have better luck if you made an effort to really engage in conversations with your matches. And for the PP’s who said it’s just for hookups…not true. There’s definitely a lot of that, but you can easily sort through those men
Post # 17
Two days to reply? That’s way too long. I’d say people probably check it at least 3 times a day and if by the third time they check it and you haven’t responded they are likely to unmatch. Would you want to wait 2 days for a reply from someone you were interested in? No.
Post # 18
mrscb2bee : I’m not shabby myself, but I matched with a lot of guys who seems to be able to land chicks easily. I am talking about guys who’s tall, good looking and graduated from a top university. It’s just not one guy, but 30% of them are like that. Why would these guys use Tinder? There’s guys who I’m definitely attracted to but is afraid to send the first message because of that.
Post # 19
tobeornottobe7 : I’ll try to reply faster but I like to weed out the people. I also immediately unmatch if the person says something that can lead to something inappropriate, such as wanna have fun?
Post # 20
annann91 : Same!
I met Darling Husband on Tinder, and met surprisingly a good amount of guys who didn’t seem interested in just a casual hookup. Very very few unmatched me (and those who did seemed to be in it for the hookup). I have heard that in other cities, Tinder is much more about the hookup than it is here so my friends find themselves on eharmony instead.
I do think though that your slow replying could be misinterpreted as disinterest either way. Have you looked into Coffee Meets Bagel? I heard it gives you one match a day. My best friend / Maid/Matron of Honor matched with her SO on tinder and coffee meets bagel, and he is an absolute sweetie. So is Darling Husband, FWIW. Both my best friend and I consider ourselves super lucky and happy that we matched with such incredible guys on tinder. Another suggestion – have you tried eHarmony? I didn’t find the love of my life on there, but the quality of the matches was certainly there.
One story I tell from that is that I matched with a guy who was super attractive even though I wasn’t necessarily attracted to him. Harvard educated, really smart, clearly had money, and seemed perfectly nice. I took waaaay too long to get back to him. At least a month. Next thing I know, he starts popping up on my Facebook news feed because he had started dating a college acquaintance of mine. My jaw was just completely on the floor over the next few (like literally, 3) months as I would see photos of them traveling all over, culminating in a proposal atop the Eiffel Tower like literally 2-3 months into their relationship! They’re still married several years later so clearly it worked out lol.