- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I have two MOHs. I ended up chosing two because I could see how chosing only one would be unfair or unhelpful. MOH#1 and I are emotionally close, but she doesn’t keep in contact and is not an organizer. MOH#2 and I are intellectually close and we are in constant contact.
MOH#1 never asks about my wedding plans or what’s going on in my life, due to never initiating contact. I’ve tried to get in touch with her, but she seldom replies to e-mails or picks up her phone. MOH#2 even calls me up to ask about my progress with certain projects. Both MOHs are busy finishing their MA degrees.
Now, two weeks ago I went looking for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with one Bridesmaid or Best Man because we all live so far apart. I sent everyone an e-mail with photos and asked them to let me know their favorites. Everyone has responded including their sizing except MOH#1.
I finally got MOH#1 on the phone last night for a few seconds. She claims she’s too busy to e-mail me her choices and will let me know in a week or two. And she said that while telling me she was getting ready for a friend’s birthday party last night.
I want to get moving on the dress. All we need is her vote on the style of the dress, then we can determine the color of the dress. I want to do this democratically, not autocratically. I find it frustrating.
There is only so much I can do to contact her without coming across as over the top bridezilla. I’ve decided to keep my distance for a bit and see how it goes. However, I hate that (due to being emotionally attached) I get so negative and resentful about this.
Has anyone else had this problem?