Post # 17
I feel a lot of anxiety over this, wondering what others will think about us having a tiny wedding and then a big honeymoon. It’s not that our honeymoon is luxious per say, it’s just that it costs so much because airfare to our destination is so expensive. So, maybe people don’t know that and won’t think about it… We were originally going to do the typical 200 person wedding that would have put us in debt, so we figured why not do a small 20 person ceremony and nice supper and end up with extra money to do a honeymoon? I’m hoping that extended family that “assumed” there would be a big wedding will understand that we’ve only invited parents, grandparents, and siblings, and that no one will think we’re cheaping out by doing this. Although it’s 20 people we’re still doing it up with a privately catered venue, professional photog, etc.
Though I still worry about what people might think this just works better for us (the huge number of people was giving me anxiety) and wow it’s such a tough decision in choosing residual debt or a paid for honeymoon…:)
Post # 18
We’re still having about 70 people but we went fairly cheap. Our entire wedding will be just a little over $5,000. That’s the amount my parents agreed to give us and FI’s parents agreed to pay for our honeymoon (but it was a big issue if we wanted them to contribute to our wedding). Ceremony in my parents backyard, then buffet dinner at a local party house including 3 hours open bar. Hopefully people don’t have an issue with the fact that they have to fly 3,000 miles (FI’s family and most of his friends live on the west coast) for a buffet with us flying to Jamaica after to be pampered and enjoy great food lol.
Post # 19
FI and I are doing this very same thing!!
We will be holding an intimate,private ceremony at a historic mansion in our area. Only immediate family members are invited..so that will be 24 people. We are all going out to a nice dinner afterwards. As much as I love big, beautiful weddings..I like them for others and not myself lol. We are super chill people..so this is perfect for us, and we are just so excited! Since we opted out of the big traditional wedding/reception..my parents are not only covering the ceremony and dinner..but they are also covering our honeymoon. We decided on the Excellence Playa Mujeres..we will be doing 10 days in the 2 story suite wiith the Excellence club package. We will be holding an ‘after the wedding’ celebration with our close friends when we return.
Post # 20
wow some of these comments just make me even more glad that i’m having a small wedding and all out honeymoon!
Call me selfish; but it meant more to ME & my Fiance that we spend the money we have on what was most important to us. In our case-our honeymoon and our wedding bands.
We’re having a SMALL wedding-no more than 30 people. We’re having a civil ceremony @ the NYC Hall (Marriage Bureau) with about 15 people; and then hosting a dinner that evening for 30 people at one of our favorite restaurants. No big reception; no DJ; no crazy expensive flowers.
But we’re spending quite a chunk of money on our wedding bands; and we’re going to Costa Rica for our honeymoon. Something we personally couldn’t have afforded especially with the airfare into the Liberia airport over $800 pp!
It just blows my mind how some people think guests will fee cheated or like we’re being cheap about the wedding.
Maybe i’m overly sensitive about the issue; because i’m just tired of people “expecting” so much (guests/family) when the wedding is really just supposed to be about my Fiance & I.
All that to say; do what you want; don’t worry about what your potential guests may feel. They should just be happy that you decided to include them in your day!
We also have some extended family that hear we’re getting married and immediately think wedding & big party. But we just have to keep explaining to people we’re just having an intimate ceremony. NOT a big wedding. If i haven’t talked to you in almost 2 years why no do you expect me to invite you?? Sorry again-feeling a little sensitive dealing with everyone around me!