Post # 1
When do you consider it elopement generally? Less than 10-15 guests? Should save the dates still be sent even if short engagement (less than 5 months)? The term elopement is used more loosely these days & people are breaking away from tradition. Personally, I think it’s great. It is your day. Would love to hear thoughts & tips.
Post # 2
An elopement is only the two people getting married. If any guests are invited then it’s an intimate wedding.
Save-the-Dates are never necessary.
Post # 3
I agree with the PP. An elopement has no guests. That’s what we did. Otherwise, I’d call it an intimate wedding. I don’t see a reason for STD if you have <10 guests.
Post # 4
I would class that as a small wedding, it’s definitely not an elopement.
Post # 5
Elopement is the bride, the groom and 1 witness. I think ceremonies with less than 20 people are considered intimate weddings, in my opinion.
Post # 6
I agree with everyone-elopments are just bride and groom.
Post # 7
Elopement is traditionally, just the bride and groom. The term intimate wedding is definitely more accurate in this case.
However, I am always referring to my tiny wedding that I’m having later this winter as “eloping” and plan on inviting our immediate families (parents + siblings = 6 people). However, that’s partially because we originally discussed just going to the courthouse with the two of us.
As for save the dates, I think I would skip that extra postage and just send the good ol’ invitiations. As a guest, I would not mind at all if I got no save the date, especially with the wedding coming up in under a year.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I don’t think you should waste money by mailing STDs, but you could send electronic ones if you’d like. My DH and I did this, using Paperless Post. It was completely free, and I love them!
Post # 9
Agree with everyone above – elopmet is just bride and groom. For me intimate wedding is up to 20 people and this is what we are doing. Small destination wedding with immediate family and a few couples of friends.
Did not send save the dates, just personally talked to everyone – almost everyone is a couple so we only had to make ~10 phone calls:) But I am going to send a formal invite with the details of the wedding
Post # 10
To me elopement always meant ‘secrecy’ and ‘spur of the moment’ I think if you plan a wedding in advance, tell others you’re getting married than its considered an intimate wedding regardless if its just 2 people
Post # 11
I think it’s considered an elopment when it’s just the bride and groom along with a witness or two.
Post # 12
An elopement is only the bride, groom, and officiant. Sometimes a photographer. No one else. A tiny wedding is a bit flexible…can be anywhere from 2 guests up to 15 or so guests. 20+ guests I would call a small wedding.
Post # 13
I consider an elopement just the bride and groom (officiant and witness of course ….. and maybe a photographer)?
I thought I was planning an “intimate” wedding. We will be inviting 75 people. Maybe because all the weddings I’ve been to are like 200 people. I feel like under 100 is “intimate” for a wedding…
Post # 14
Before we told our parents we were seriously looking into eloping. Even with traditon stating that it’s just the couple, when we were looking into elopement packages most of them allowed up to 8-10 people to be in the room. This number included the photographer and witness etc. The intimate wedding packages that we looked into were usually for like under 20-30 people I’d say? I second the thought that with something so small you don’t need to send out paper STDs and digital only if you really want to. I would just go with some invitations if you’d have the time and if not a phonecall (for the elopement). The intimate wedding would probaly need at least an evite.
Post # 15
We have decided we would elope and consider an elopement just the bride and groom (officiant and witnesses of course) and maybe a photographer but no other guests. If less then 20 people total, then we consider it an intimate wedding. If it’s important to either the bride or groom that certain guests attend then STD might be a good idea, if at the very least, electronically.