(Closed) Tiny wedding or elopement

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How many guests do you consider a tiny/intimate wedding?
    Under 10 : (22 votes)
    44 %
    10-30 : (27 votes)
    54 %
    30-65 : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    An elopement is only the two people getting married. If any guests are invited then it’s an intimate wedding.

    Save-the-Dates are never necessary.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I agree with the PP. An elopement has no guests. That’s what we did. Otherwise, I’d call it an intimate wedding. I don’t see a reason for STD if you have <10 guests. 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I would class that as a small wedding, it’s definitely not an elopement. 

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    jonasbutterfly :  Elopement is the bride, the groom and 1 witness. I think ceremonies with less than 20 people are considered intimate weddings, in my opinion. 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee

    I agree with everyone-elopments are just bride and groom. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Elopement is traditionally, just the bride and groom. The term intimate wedding is definitely more accurate in this case.

    However, I am always referring to my tiny wedding that I’m having later this winter as “eloping” and plan on inviting our immediate families (parents + siblings = 6 people). However, that’s partially because we originally discussed just going to the courthouse with the two of us.

    As for save the dates, I think I would skip that extra postage and just send the good ol’ invitiations. As a guest, I would not mind at all if I got no save the date, especially with the wedding coming up in under a year. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

    I don’t think you should waste money by mailing STDs, but you could send electronic ones if you’d like. My DH and I did this, using Paperless Post. It was completely free, and I love them!

    STD

    Post # 9
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Agree with everyone above – elopmet is just bride and groom. For me intimate wedding is up to 20 people and this is what we are doing. Small destination wedding with immediate family and a few couples of friends.

    Did not send save the dates, just personally talked to everyone – almost everyone is a couple so we only had to make ~10 phone calls:) But I am going to send a formal invite with the details of the wedding

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee

    To me elopement always meant ‘secrecy’ and ‘spur of the moment’ I think if you plan a wedding in advance, tell others you’re getting married than its considered an intimate wedding regardless if its just 2 people  

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I think it’s considered an elopment when it’s just the bride and groom along with a witness or two. 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee

    An elopement is only the bride, groom, and officiant. Sometimes a photographer. No one else. A tiny wedding is a bit flexible…can be anywhere from 2 guests up to 15 or so guests. 20+ guests I would call a small wedding. 

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    I consider an elopement just the bride and groom (officiant and witness of course ….. and maybe a photographer)?

    I thought I was planning an “intimate” wedding. We will be inviting 75 people. Maybe because all the weddings I’ve been to are like 200 people. I feel like under 100 is “intimate” for a wedding…

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    Before we told our parents we were seriously looking into eloping. Even with traditon stating that it’s just the couple, when we were looking into elopement packages most of them allowed up to 8-10 people to be in the room. This number included the photographer and witness etc. The intimate wedding packages that we looked into were usually for like under 20-30 people I’d say? I second the thought that with something so small you don’t need to send out paper STDs and digital only if you really want to. I would just go with some invitations if you’d have the time and if not a phonecall (for the elopement). The intimate wedding would probaly need at least an evite. 

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We have decided we would elope and consider an elopement just the bride and groom (officiant and witnesses of course) and maybe a photographer but no other guests. If less then 20 people total, then we consider it an intimate wedding. If it’s important to either the bride or groom that certain guests attend then STD might be a good idea, if at the very least, electronically.

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