(Closed) Tip the priest?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: Do we tip our priest?
    Yes : (10 votes)
    56 %
    Not necessary : (8 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You should never tip your priest.  Catholic priests are sworn into a life of poverty.  Some acceptable options would be to make a special donation to the church or to invite your priest to your rehearsal dinner and/or reception.

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You tip the priest via donation to the church. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Do you mean in addition to paying them? Our priest and deacon are both family friends so I think its a little awkward to “pay” them (I think it would be less weird to give them a gift certificate or something, I mean, they would’ve been guests at the wedding anyway) but my mom insists on paying. Our priest is retired though so he will definitely be paid. And I’m sure we will pay the deacon too, because moms always win!

    Just ask the church secretary what most people do.

    Post # 6
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    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’ll be giving our deacon a $200 honorarium. And we invited the deacon and his wife to our reception.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    As said, you “tip” the priest as a donation to the church.

    Post # 8
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    We gave a donation directly to him for him to decide how it should be donated to the church.  I think he put in into a fund for the care of retired priests.  We also gave him a photo of this neat picture of him over us with our heads bowed, he has pictures all over of everyone he’s married and their kids so we wanted to be on his wall.  And we still want to give him a personal gift but haven’t figured out what exactly and probably won’t until our first anniversary. 

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It is costing me $2K to get married at our church..I’m supposed to give another “donation” on top of this??

    Post # 11
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    1702 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m planning on just paying the $250 fee. 

    Post # 12
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I read that you are NOT supposed to tip the priest but you can tip a judge if he is performing ceremony for his service. Instead consider an offering or donation to the church. If you are paying 2K then I would think you are quite covered, and a thank you would be sufficient.

    I’m not tipping mine, but we flew our pastor and his wife out and are paying for their lodging so they can marry us in my old hometown where the wedding is. I am going to get them a thank you engraved frame I think.

    Post # 13
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @lauren810c: Why do you have to pay 2K to get married at a church? I’ve never heard of such a thing!

    We are not required to pay the priest, but were asked to make a $200 donation to the church. They also want us to leave our flowers at the church after our ceremony so the congregation can enjoy them for their Sunday service. Has anyone had to do this? I’d like to take my flowers to help decorate the reception!

    Post # 14
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think our church is a little disorganized.  We were never asked to pay to use the church or make any donations.  We do plan on making one, but I thought it was odd that nobody ever said anything.  We were told how much to pay the organist and cantor though.  Our priest came to our rehearsal dinner and our reception so I consider his free meals to be “tip” enough.  I had issues with him up until the day of our wedding and still do, so that’s as gracious as I feel right now.

    Nobody ever told me what I could and could not do in regards to the church, so we took our flowers and reused them at the reception.  We only left our flowers for Mary.  The priest did mention at the rehearsal that I could use the flowers that were in front of the alter if they still looked nice, but I had my MOH hide them in the sacristy because they didn’t match my color scheme at all and I didn’t think they were that pretty.

    Post # 15
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I plan on giving the priest a tip on top of a donation to the church. Priests do make a small salary but I will leave it up to him to decide what to do with the money. 

    Post # 16
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    You generally do give the priest an honorarium (usually $100-$250).  A priest will sometimes donate this money to the church, someone they will use it to buy things he needs (like shoes), and sometimes use it for personal projects.  One priest I know would take that money and buy a bunch of Bibles to hand out to the poor. 

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