(Closed) Tipping?

posted 6 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t have a complete list of who I’m tipping and how much but I know that I need to tip the following:

Officiant & DOC – Married couple, family friends, I’ll probably give them 200 each. (they are both doing these services for free, but they are giving up a Saturday and they are old family friends/my first pastor who is retired but willing to do the ceremony, so I’m forever grateful.)

DJ.

Violinist (for the ceremony) – probably $25, she’s only going to be there for a short while.

Church Director – $50, would have been more but they suddenly tacked on $75.00 for having to move the chairs for the ceremony to create my center aisle. (he has to be there for the big day).

Person doing food (a family friend who is cooking for us for free, but obv. I want to give them some compensation).

 

I plan on making handwritten thank you notes/cards, putting the money all in there and handing them to the Maid/Matron of Honor to handle!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All our vendors include tips in their prices (whoohoo).  One less thing to worry about.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thankfully our venue which is also handling our food/drinks already includes a tip.  So, they won’t be getting anything additional.  On the list of people who could potentially get tipped (if we are pleased with them) would be the violinist (which still hasn’t been 100% decided I guess, eep), DJ, Florist, and Officiant.  I dunno how much we would be tipping yet….or if we are certain that we are

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bridalprincess:  I was thinking the same. I have to look over our contract but I believe most of them are already included in the charge. I know my venue is charging us a 22% service fee so I’m guessing this is their tip for each departments. Our officiant asked us just to give him a tip for his service. He is doing as a favor for my Fiance, so I was considering $100. I may tip the photographer a little extra because I asked him to tape my surprise dance which is outside of the video slot we are using his service for. The planner that is making our free centerpieces, I plan on tipping extra because I won these service at a brial show. I may give the baker an extra $20 because she is doing the set up for free because she is across the street from the venue. We just plan on giving the envelops with balance and tip to our bridal party (mother’s, Maid/Matron of Honor and Best man) to pass out to the vendors. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m not doing much tipping, actually. Gratuities are specifically included in our reception costs already (in ADDITION to the service charge, which does not go to staff), which includes our maitre d’, servers, and bartender. Many of our other vendors are small business owners who do their own work, including our ceremony musicians, DJ, florist, and cake baker. We aren’t planning to rent transportation.

The only people I’m for sure tipping are the ladies doing the hair and makeup for myself and my bridesmaids.

I may tip the maitre d’ assigned to us by our venue anyway because she is going to be in charge of setting up our reception space and making sure all of the decorations go where they’re supposed to in addition to coordinating the set-up staff and telling our vendors where to go. And I plan to have some cash with me in case I feel like a vendor has gone above and beyond, even though ettiquette says you don’t tip business owners.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anemonie:  Wait, the service charge doesn’t go to the staff? We are paying a 22% service charge on top of our food and beveage bill. I was under the impression this went to the staff. I need to double check this. So what does the venue service charge cover?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ok, I just read over my venues contract. It says:

“A 22% service charge and applicable taxes shall be added to all food and beverage. 14% of whish is to go to service personnel and banquet captains, and where applicable busboys and/or bartenders engaged in the function and 8% is retained by the hotel to off set employee wages and benefits.”

So in a nut shell, I am good on tipping the hotel and staff. I’m glad I reread this paragraph. I may give a gift card to the hotel event cordinator. She has been great for our event. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@actime:   I worked in a fancy country club where they charged 18% gratuity on weddings but didn’t give any to their “banquet bitches” as they were called. They got $10 per hour; no tips. The owners/big bosses just pocketed it… I’m assuming.  Skeevy.

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