(Closed) Tipping

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t tip any of those people… I only tipped my hair/makeup artist and the lady at the nail salon. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it depends where the wedding is. I’m Canadian, so we never tip hotels here. (And if we’re supposed to, I’ve missed that memo.) But when Fiance and I went to Vegas, it seemed like everyone wanted/expected a tip at the hotels. Which was fine, but I had never noticed this in the States before! 

My venue includes linens, food, alcohol, wedding planner, staff, etc. In my contract there was a mandatory 17% gratuity added on. Check your contracts first to see if that’s already added.

You generally don’t tip officiants, but it’s common etiquette to invite them to your dinner. Often they decline, but it’s generally protocol to invite them. I won’t be tipping my photographer, but I’m also paying an arm and a leg for it… I’m not sure if there is a protocol for tipping them or not.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

@the_future_mrs:  I think it depends where the wedding is. I’m Canadian, so we never tip hotels here. (And if we’re supposed to, I’ve missed that memo.)

A lot of hotels say to not tip or have it on a card in the hotel room! Don’t know why? But that’s a general rule.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mseagles:  I did the 20%… they cost me enough lol.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The only ones I am tipping are hair/makeup (20%) and then the venue has an 18% gratuity built in. I believe it can be customary to also do some sort of offering to your priest/minister if they don’t have a set fee. Ours is a friend so we are buying her a really nice personal gift ($160). You generally also tip on car service unless it is built in. We aren’t having a limo.

 Everyone else I am paying a fair price to and don’t see a need to tip. If someone really goes above and beyond, compared to what I am paying them, I may. For example, my seamstress is just a gal that does it out of her home and she seems like she is going to be incredibly accommodating, and her prices are ridiculously cheap. I may round up her bill. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

My understanding is that you tip people who work for a company but not necessarily ones that work for themselves, since they set their own prices. But if they really did an outstanding job, I’m sure a tip is still appreciated. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@Pinkmoon:  I heard the same thing. I’d like to tip the DJ, photographer, etc (18% is built in to catering, limo and hair lady) but for goodness sake, I’m paying them thousands of dollars for their services and they own their own companies. Ugh

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We tipped our DJ and photographer, but not 20% since they both own the companies.  They each got an extra few hundred bucks, plus a little extra in the DJ envelope for the helpers he brought.

Gratuity was built in for our venue (catering, booze, etc), plus we know our guests tipped the bartenders (it wasn’t requested or anything, but that’s just what our friends do, and considering the bartenders were pouring shots, we’re fairly sure they did pretty well).  We did send an edible bouquet to the coordinator as a thank you, because she did a stellar job.

And we tipped the hair/makeup girls and shuttle drivers; the girls got like an extra $20-50 each depending on how many people they worked on (which actually is 20% of what they charged), the driver for the bridal party limo got like $30 and the driver for the shuttle bus for guests got $50. 

That was the extent of our tipping.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We ended up tipping many people at our wedding. We tipped the DJ, the Photographer, and the transportation drivers. We tipped the photographer about 20%, but I don’t remember how much we tipped the other two since my husband handled that. Our guests tipped the bartender. Oh and I tipped my hair dresser.

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