(Closed) Tipping?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Bump!  I’m especially curious about photography.  I thought that if you hire someone in business for themselves, you don’t tip – but one of the photogs we were interviewing did mention it in passing and made me go hmmm

Post # 4
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Posting because I’m also curious about how much and when to tip my vendors.

Post # 5
3323 posts
Sugar bee

If the service provider is the owner of the business, you do not tip.  If they are a providing a service through a company you should tip them approximately 15% of the cost of their services.

Though the actual amount varies by where you are located.  In some places you tip more and in some places less.

I did it on the day of, because through the companies I would fret it wouldn’t make it to the intended recipient.

Post # 7
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

We gave out $50.’s and $100.’s before the end of the night, and the photographer was mailed his seperately a few weeks later.

We didn’t go by percentages at all, but gave bartenders and chefs $100. each, and all waitstaff $50. Florist delivered hours before as well as the baker, so we didn’t tip.

Gratuity was also included from the caterer, but we tipped above as they were wonderful all night. We had envelopes ready with cash to give to each at the end of the night.

I think owners should also be tipped, especially if they are the only ones working for themselves.

Hair stylists and MUA’s we gave 20%.

Post # 9
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

From what I’ve gathered, you only tip if the person providing the service isn’t the owner of the company.


My photographer and cake baker are owners, so I don’t think I’m supposed to tip them.


My DJ is not; I’ll probably give him $50 ($850 is the contract price).


My florist is not, but I’m not sure if you tip your florist if you’re using like…Giant or Wegmans, which is what I’m doing…I’ll need to research that.


My venue includes tips for all waitstaff and bartenders in the contract, so I won’t need to think about that.

Post # 10
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh and my cousin is doing my hair & makeup as a gift, so that’s free.

My friend is marrying us, but I will probably give him & his wife something for doing that for us.

Post # 11
8683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have something I think I got from here and pinned on my pinterest 

Post # 12
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Wow!  They say the “little” things really add up, and tips are the main thing!  I don’t mind though.  But, I do believe tips are for excellent service.  What if you get lousy service?  I remember when my cousin was married, and his Mother-In-Law was so embarrassed because the food was not as good as what they had tasted.  They received a partial refund because of that.

Anyway, we will be having a friend doing the DJ and he is giving us a break, but if they money is there, we will increase what we give him.  He is really incredible.

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