(Closed) Tipping!

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

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jamiee18:  Tipping isn’t such a big thing in the UK; we only really tip waiters/waitresses, hairdressers/beauticians (unless it is their own business), taxi drivers, and some hotel staff (porters/bell hops, maids). With that in mind, we only tipped the bar staff and wait staff at the venue (£300/$450).

We did however give gifts to the manager at the venue (whiskey), the event’s co-ordinator at the venue (Australian dollars as she was going travelling), and the hair stylist and make up artist (champagne), and we gave the band an extra couple of hundred £ as they were charging us massively reduced ‘mate’s rates’. We also wrote thank you cards to all our vendors and left them all positive feedback/reviews where possible. To have tipped other vendors would have been considered rude, though; it just isn’t the done thing.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would also read through this: http://www.marthastewart.com/280369/tipping-wedding-vendors

Your photographer (and anyone else who owns their own business) does not need to be tipped, they have negotiated a rate with you and then take home all of that money. 

Your caterer will need to be tipped, and it’s normally a large amount. Check with your caterer when you sign the contract, mostly they will include the tip in your final bill, but double check just to be sure since a 10-15% gratuity can add up. Our caterer included a tip in the final bill so that money was used to tip out all the staff who worked the event from the catering company, so we didn’t need to tip them individually. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

We didn’t tip the photographer or the cake bakers. They both owned their own business so it didn’t seem necessary to me. They set their own prices and can charge whatever they want. I did write a thank you card to the cake lady though because I was blown away with her work. I didn’t send a thank you card to the photographer/videographers though because they were really late (over a year) on the video.

My husband had an evelope of cash for the limo driver and I think we tipped 10%. We also tipped the DJ 10-20% – I forget which. And again, Darling Husband just had the cash on him. 

The tipping for the wait staff was included in the overall cost for us, so we didn’t tip beyond that 20% charged.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  MrsCallalily.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We didn’t tip our photographer-they owned their own business and set their own rates. And we paid a delivery fee for our cake so why tip on top of that? I think people let tipping get way our of hand. You’re already paying these people a huge amount of money to do their job. Our caterer tacked on a 20% service fee and I know the hourly rate we were paying for the servers was $20! That’s a lot of money per hour so I didn’t feel a need to tip on top of that. We only did tips for the DJ. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The bug purchases have automatic gratuities included so unless I’m astounded, I won’t tip these further. (Here they charge about 20-25%.) I do, however, tip private contracts, small businesses, etc. The tip ranges depending on how good the service is and what they’re doing.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We have a certain amount added on to our catering bill (I forget what they call it-maybe a surcharge?) but none of that goes toward tipping out the staff. When I asked about tipping them, they told me that each server, bartender, attendant considers 50 to 100$ a nice tip. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The time to check with venue is BEFORE you sign contract.  Afterwards, they have NO motivation to say any service charge is a tip.  NONE, NADA, ZIP

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We tipped our photo/video guys because they were seriously amazing. When they heard our photo booth vendor no showed, they set up an area for us with a tripod, camera and remote and let us go to town. Those are some of my favorite photos. They also drove 6 hours to our venue, brought 2 of their wives to help out, and stayed the whole weekend. Yes, they own their business but they really went above and beyond for us. Same for our wedding coordinator.

I would say go with your gut. There are instances where tipping is obvious (and already included), but if you receive outstanding service it should be acknowledged.

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