Tipping

posted 1 month ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I always think 15-20% is standard across the board. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

excitedbride17 :  Of the invoice. 

But keep in mind that 15-20% can add up to be a lot…our photographer and videographer, for example, are running $4-5K each so tips for that amount would be $500-$800 at 15% each! I’m sorry but there’s just no way I can afford or justify spending that much money for small boutique vendors that already charge so much. I will gladly send them a thank you note later with $150 in tip, but now I’m wondering if that will just look cheap :/.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

akshali2000 :  I am with you on this!!  Like, I have no problem tipping 15-20% to my wedding hairstylist and MUA, but do you really have to tip your photographer 15-20%?  I am planning on tipping my photographer $100 the night of the wedding with a thank you card. Forget 15-20% more!!

My venue is an all inclusive, which adds a 20% gratuity, so I know we don’t have to tip out the wait staff.  However, they do have a day of coordinator/maitre d who runs everything that day.  I know there will be an expectation that we tip that person, but we sure as heck aren’t tacking an extra 15-20% of what we are paying, especially as that has already been tacked on.

Do you tip the florist?  How about delivery drivers?  I’m not going to be there for the delivery, so do we tip with the final payment?  I’m setting aside labeled envelopes before the wedding, but I am so afraid of forgetting someone/something!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

akshali2000 :  I can see tipping wait staff 15-20%, as they are typically paid below minimum wage. However, I’m not entirely sure if that accounts for places such a banquet halls. But anyway….. I agree with ctbxbee. I’d throw them $100 at the end of the night and not worry about it. 

Tipping $500-$800 on a service you are already paying for is nuts IMHO. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I wrote thank you cards to all my vendors but didn’t tip them. I would have tipped for hair and make-up but that was done by friends as a gift.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

excitedbride17 :  first, only tip if people don’t own their own business, if they own their business a thank you card and good review is sufficient.

Gratuity may be included for wait staff, so also check that.

We only tipped the wait staff (on top of the included gratuity) and we tipped them £300 between 6 of them.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

Different question: When should you tip vendors? Day of or later after you’ve had a chance to reflect on how the event went and the service they provided (I assume people would just slip a check or cash into the thank you card and put it in the mail)?

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Tip vendors the day of – if they do a crappy job and you’ve tipped them in advance, that’d leave me with steam coming out my ears. You can always send a handwritten thank you note with a tip later on as well.

We chose to generally not tip. Our venue included 18% gratuity in the contract and the majority of our vendors owned their own businesses and as a rule of thumb, you don’t tip business owners. My makeup was done by an owner (no tip), hair by a stylist (tipped her), tipped the girl at the bridal salon (she saved an otherwise HORRIBLE dress searching day), did not tip the seamstress (owned the business), didn’t tip the DJ (but his fee was one of the highest among our vendors), flowers were done by my BM but we got her a special gift, sweets table, didn’t tip because all they did was provide the sweets, the venue had to do all the work setting it up.

I used to work at a floral shop and generally the florist isn’t expecting a tip. Their hourly rate is worked into the overall cost. If you have a coordinator who can tip while things are delivererd, that’s great, but a lot of deliveries were done by NOT the company who provided the service, so I wasn’t going to tip a driver who spent 40 minutes with my flowers. It’s part of his job and he’s compensated per delivery already.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: My church and Florian Park

Is a “service charge 20%” considered gratuity? Because that’s in my contract and reading this made me go look it over and see if gratuity was included

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I’m grateful for this post. I’ve been wondering if and how much I should tip my vendors. I can’t wrap my head around tipping my photographer 15-20% who I’m already paying 6k+. He does own his own business so after reading this, I think it’s not necessary to tip him. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

lostinparadise19 :  great points, especially about delivery people being different than the actual vendor. One time for my engagement party I needed flowers delivered and they contracted delivery out to some other company and he was very late.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

futuremrsdunphey :  We decides on interpreting service charge as gratuity. Otherwise costs would be even more overblown then they already are. 

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