(Closed) tipping

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had asked my DOC about tipping the vendors.  She said you should only tip if you feel you received really good service, or if you just want to.  My dad was pretty tipsy and happy at the end of the wedding and ended up tipping the DOC, florist, and DJ very well.   If he hadn’t done that I had thought about gifting my DOC a Nordstrom gift card or something because I thought she did such a great job.

Post # 4
197 posts
Blushing bee

Please do. I bet the 4 other people that work for her either don’t get paid or get next to nothing.

Post # 5
1696 posts
Bumble bee

Assuming that she is the business owner, and sets her own rates, you aren’t supposed to tip her. You’re supposed to respect her professionalism and assume that she knows what her services are worth, and has the confidence and honesty to set her rates accordingly — and, by the same token, a professional or business-owner who DOES expect a tip, is acting unprofessionally. A contract is supposed to be drawn up fairly as an exchange of value-for-value, so either the tip is already covered, or tip would constitute an over-payment on your part, or she’s lowballing her prices to undercut others who estimate their values honestly.

Her staff are a different story. They don’t set their own rates, and aren’t presumed to be professionals. If any of them provides you with personal services (as opposed to interacting solely with their boss-lady) then you should tip them.


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