Post # 1
I know this has been discussed before, I did a search but mostly found brides who already hired a planner and WANTED to tip them, or people suggesting wildly different amounts and percentages.
I think I would like to hire a full-service wedding planner, but it would be a major expense in my wedding budget. The one I’m talking to most seriously right now charges her fee as a % of my overall wedding budget, so I was actually surprised to read that some think it is expected to tip an additional % of that.
I have worked as a waitress and have all my feelings and ideas about tipping in general, but I feel a little bit different about tipping business owners than I do about tipping employees of someone else’s business who are not the direct recipients of the fees I’m paying for the service to begin with.
I just find vendor tipping complicated and wish I knew what everyone expected so I could calculate it into the budget up-front! Especially in this case, since it would impact whether I can afford to use this service. I would naturally give her a thank you card and a small gift, but a 20% tip makes a huge difference in my budget.
What would you tip?
Post # 3
@PromiseRooster: I would tip depending on the level of service you recieved. Our wedding planner was over the top amazing, she went above and beyond for us and our day was perfect because of her.
We tipped her 20% and gave her a gift basket full of useful goodies.
Post # 4
@PromiseRooster: It depends on the type of planner. Is it an independent planner or one assigned through your venue? Mine is provided by the Ritz-Carlton and I know she is paid a salary/ living wage, so I will only tip her for above and beyond service. Thus far, she has been on maternity leave for a chunk of our planning process, and was good but far from excellent prior to her leave. Unless she comes back from her maternity leave in November and makes some sort of amazingly helpful contribution, I doubt we will tip her. She has been adequate but not impressive. Should she do something excellent or very helpful on the day of the wedding or weeks leading up to it, we will tip her as a token of gratitude. The servers, bartenders, concierge, hair stylists, manicurists, spa attendants, bellmen etc. are who should be tipped well. I think it is a bit greedy that everyone from photographers to wedding planners are starting to expect tips when they are paid quite well. Some employees are not paid a living wage and they depend on tips. Others should only get tips for outstanding service.
Post # 5
I would step on their toe and push them so they tip over.
Post # 7
@Duncan: That version would sure save me money!
Post # 8
@FLBlonde93: Thank you, that’s kind of what I think too!
She’s an independent wedding planner, and her fees are comparable to others offering comparable services…which still means expensive! Her company is flourishing and it doesn’t make sense to me to tip her, but I don’t want to offend either.
Post # 9
The gift basket makes total sense to me, but we are looking at paying for a full-service package, which means we are basically already paying extra so that she would go above and beyond, and tipping 20% would mean over $1000 tip! So I don’t know how to feel about it.
Post # 10
@PromiseRooster: We paid for a “full service” package which is a wedding planner from beginning to end and then some.. Some wedding planners charge additional for hours over a certain amount but most professionals ignore the extra hours and don’t pass this along to their brides, like ours. Our wedding planner went 27 hours over what she normally expects/estimates to spend on a wedding from beginning to end…that is quite a bit. Like I said she went above and beyond…but didn’t charge us.
She was also independent and not a representative of a vendor or venue.
To each their own of course. There are professional planners and then there are amazing planners. I guess just wait until it is over and tip as you feel comfortable. No point in deciding now, before you can truly evaluate their services.
Post # 11
I just got ours a gift. We got her a nice tea set with cups, a pot, teas, honey sticks, saucers, strainer.
Post # 12
@PromiseRooster: I did not tip vendors who ran their own businesses. Why would you? It doesn’t make sense exception in exceptional cases.
I had an on-site wedding coordinator through my hotel who I thought was awesome, so I did tip her. I did not tip based on what we paid the hotel, but tipped a few hundred dollars in cash, which seemed right to me.