(Closed) Tipping advice needed for destination wedding – HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I have an Emily Post book on wedding etiquette (US), and here’s what it suggests:

Wedding photographer, planner don’t need a tip, but a note of appreciation is always welcome. Only tip if you feel like they went above and beyond.

Officiant: no tip required, but definitely feed him/her and a +1. A letter of thanks and/or a personal gift are appreciated.

Check your contract to see if tip for bartenders/waitresses are included. If not: tip bartenders as a group (10% of total liquor bill). Tip waiters 20+ each, with the headwaiter (if applicable) getting 1-3% of food costs. It also says tip the chef $100+ not sure if that’s normal!

The book doesn’t mention hair stylists, but I would definitely tip 15-20%.

Post # 4
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

This is the cheat-sheet my wedding planner gave me and I found it really helpful. With a small wedding a lot of these might not apply to you but I thought I’d include the whole thing anyway:

Band (Optional): $25-50 per reception musician

Bartenders (Expected): $50-100 per bartender

Bathroom Attendants (Optional): $1-2 per guest

Catering Staff (Expected): The service charge on your catering bill does not usually include gratuity, so if you haven’t arranged ahead of time for a credit card gratuity, you’ll need to provide day-of cash tips: $50-100 per captain/chef, $25-50 per server

Ceremony Musicians (Optional): $15-25 per musician, more if they learned new songs

Childcare (Optional): $15-25 per babysitter

Coat Check Attendants (Optional): $1-2 per guest

Delivery Drivers (Optional): $5-25 per person for dropping off rentals, alcohol, cake, etc.

DJ (Optional): $50-150

Florist (Optional): $100-250

Hair + Makeup Artist (Expected): 15-20% of fee, just as you would in the salon

Officiant (Optional): Check with your officiant on what is customary.  Some clergy are not allowed to accept tips but encourage donations to the church.

Photographer (Optional): $100-250

Shuttle Driver (Expected): $25-50 per driver

Parking Attendants (Expected): $1-2 per car

Venue Representative (Optional): $50-100

Wedding Planner (Optional): 10-15% of fee up to $500 or a personal gift

Post # 6
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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jls6162 :  nice! I may save this thread later for myself 🙂

So along the lines of PP, you wouldn’t need to tip the assistants.

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