Post # 1
I know there are a ton of posts about tipping. Our wedding is not completely typical- so I’m not sure where it’s right to tip and where it’s not. I know you can always tip for great service- but on a tight budget, we’re really trying to stay where it makes the most sense. We don’t want to skimp, but we have to be smart. Here’s the breakdown…
Venue- same place for ceremony and reception- they have their own in house caterer and there is a 22% service charge added to everything (food, drinks, staff, etc)– I’m guessing there is no need to tip here unless we want to give a little extra to our day long coordinator that works for the venue?
Photographer– owns her own business- so guessing this is a no?
Florist- I have no idea on this one- do you tip them?
Officiant- we’re hiring one that charges $350 to do the service (neither of us are big church goers, so we didn’t really have a family pastor, etc)– I’d have a hard time tipping on top of the fact that we’re paying them for the service already… thoughts?
Musicians- again, not sure on this one– do you tip DJ’s and ceremony musicians that are hired for the event or is this at our discretion if the service is really great?
Post # 3
Here would be my thoughts based on the info you gave:
Venue: NO Not with a 22% service fee (standard is 18% so definitly nothing extra, since that rate is WAY high) MAYBE (big Maybe) if the DOC at the venue is absolutly amazing then a small tip for her.
Photog – no since it is her own business
Florist – not necessary esp. again if she owns her own business
Officiant – maybe but not a must, esp. if you are providing him a meal as well.
Musicians – hmm depends on what you are having. I would say for a harpist or string quartet or something like that a small tip might be in order if the music is really great. Probably 10-25 pp. For the DJ – again if the guy is through a company then yes a small tip or 25-100 dollars is nice but if it is the owner of the business then no tip needed.
Cake – No
Hair/Makeup – YES, tip just as if you were going to have your hair done normally. My hair was 45 and I tipped 15.
Post # 4
just a comment on the venue. our venue was similar to yours. we did the ceremony and reception at the same place and they charged us a 22% service fee. however, we were specifically told to tip our maitre’d. and the rule of thumb we were given was $2-5 per person. i asked around and found this to be the norm in the area i had my wedding. the explanation i received is that the 22% service fee is used to tip the wait staff, the valet parking guys, the set up people, etc but NOT the maitre’d. he was essentially our point person for the wedding and helped us with menu selections and ran the wedding for us so we didn’t mind but honestly would not have known to tip him if we weren’t told about it.