(Closed) Tipping etiquette advice

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

When I see threads like this I always feel like such a jerk because I didn’t tip any of my vendors (I didn’t realise I was supposed to)!

My understanding of tipping is it ranges from 10-20%.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

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snowflake8 :  I won’t be tipping anyone. It’s not really the done thing in the UK. They’re getting paid quite a lot so no tipping required.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

If you’re using this photographer for your wedding, tip him/her at the wedding. 

The normal tip for photographers is $50-200, depending on how good they are, and if they own the business. (If they own the business, it’s less or nothing, since presumably they’re getting a larger slice of the fee.)

Since this person is giving you a very very steep discount, I’d go high. Whatever you feel is appropriate for the level of service he gave you, plus a little extra. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ve never heard of tipping a photographer? Is that normal?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

As a Brit this is so odd to me. I understand why tipping waiters/ servers in US is almost compulsory (although I don’t agree with the pay structure) but tipping someone who is likely charging a premium for their service doesn’t really make sense. 

To PP, if you are tipping at the wedding, how do you know how good they are? So say you tip $200 thinking they have been really good then you get your photos late or some other issue.

I’m not criticising, just wondering if you have to tip every single vendor and budget accordingly?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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soinlove2017 :  if the photographer owns his business (rather than is an employee of someone else’s business) there is no need to tip. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Galleria Marchetti

If he is not doing your wedding, I think $100 is very generous since I assume you are all traveling there. If he is doing your wedding (but still traveling), I think $50 is nice.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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soinlove2017 :  Again, UK bee here so unless it is a waiter/ waitress scenario we don’t tend to tip, but as it is a friend of your Dad’s and you are getting a discount I think it would be nice to tip or maybe gift them. How much I have no idea though!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m American, so I feel like I’m tipping people constantly! From what I understand, tipping the hair and makeup artist, the person who delivers and sets up the flowers, the photographer, any DOC, and the DJ are all customary. Catering would also be customary, but a lot of caterers and services will have a ‘service fee’ that covers it. 

I think you just use your best judgement. The tip is for the attitude they project and hustle they show on the day of the wedding, whereas the fee is the work they produce.

For example, with a photographer, how they handled any family drama, deftly making sure Dad’s 20 year old girlfriend and the mother of the bride stay on the opposite ends of pictures! At our wedding, we’re going straight into cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception. We’ve talked a lot with our photographer how we don’t want to miss out on the hors d’ourves for a million staged shots, so we’ve asked her to keep the after ceremony photos to 20 minutes. The better she’s able to stick to that schedule, the happier we’ll be. Those things you definitely know the day of the wedding. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

I didn’t tip mine… didn’t realise you were supposed to! Oops

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Our wedding is in Canada and based on my wedding planner’s guide to tipping, there is no need anyone except the wait staff (and often a 15-20% service charge is already included in the venue). Thank you notes or small gifts are appreciated, but not expected. Not sure how it is in the US. We never tipped our engagement photographer (who is the owner/one person man thing).

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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soinlove2017 :  I would tip 15-20% based on the cost prior to the 50% discount.

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