(Closed) Tipping etiquette help

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 5
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m thankful that my venue doesn’t allow tipping. I’m not sure I would feel comfortable tipping the planner/coordinator there unless I felt he/she went above and beyond for my wedding. Also, I do not agree with tipping ALL of the reception staff/attendants. I do not intend to tip the wedding cake delivery person… I don’t imagine I would even see that person. 

We do intend to tip our musicians… $20 apiece (pending, of course, how well they play) and $50 for the deejay, videographer, and photograper (though they own their companies).

One person who commented on that link said, “It is important to keep in mind that when you pay 15,000 dollars to a reception hall, you’re paying the hall, not the employees.”

Hmm… in my mind, when I booked my reception hall, the $15K+ I paid is going to the venue who has HIRED the employees for my event. I’m not just booking the space… my money covers the labor too, so no… I should not be forced/compelled to tip. 


Post # 6
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

You can tip what you want or feel comfortable doing, but we tipped the EM, bartenders, maitre’d $100. each, and waitstaff @ $50. each. Seperate tips were mailed to the DJ & photographer but were $100. each.

We didn’t allow tip cups on the bar so felt it only fair to tip them seperately.

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