(Closed) Tipping question..

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 4
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, you should tip the delivery people, but I’m not sure how much.

Post # 5
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1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MsMindle:  Thanks!  I was wondering this too!

Post # 7
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1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our caterer is in house with our venue, and they’re already charging us a mandatory 20% service fee that’s well over 2k – so no tip.

DJ / lighting – friend that we’re paying

Photog 1 – friend that we’re paying

Photog 2 – friend that we’re paying

Videographer – found through a friend; may tip, not really sure on this one.

Cake – bakery screwed around with me about price, jacking it up $60 after I was quoted b/c something about my design preference wasn’t written down by one of their workers. It boiled down to a he said she said, and in this case, the customer was not right. So no, no tip.

Post # 8
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

@rachie205:  While it’s up to you, the tipping expectation for people delivering items is so minimal, why not throw them a little extra? The article I linked to suggested $5-$10 per person. It won’t make or break them, but it’s a kind gesture that recognizes their hard work.

Post # 10
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@rachie205:  I am also paying a 20% service charge that I’ve been advised does not actually go to the staff that will be serving my guests.  While I agree with you that it is “off-putting,” I’ve known about it since I signed the contract.  I budgeted for tips for the staff that will be serving my guests, because I believe that servers/bartenders should be tipped (barring unacceptable service).  You wouldn’t go to a restaurant and order dinner and cocktails and NOT tip, simply because you had paid for your food.  Even if you know that the cost of your food had a 20% mark-up by management. 

My food and beverage estimate approximates that I will be paying for $6,000 in drinks from the bartender.  I would never dream of not tipping the bartender that pours/mixes/serves those 500+ cocktails…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@rachie205:  I agree that I won’t be tipping 15-20% of my bar tab (or food tab for that matter).  But I couldn’t in good concious just not tip.  (Note that where I live all servers make minimum wage…plus tips)

I also agree that the 22% service charge I have to pay is outrageous and makes me irritated.  Whose service am I paying for?  Why isn’t it just factored into the cost of the venue?  It SHOULD be the gratuity for the staff IMO. 

Post # 13
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I seriously dislike tipping.  I tip well in restaurants because the servers get paid less, but I do not understand it for weddings.  For example, our florist (family owned business) is charging us a $100 delivery fee to drive the flowers 10 minutes and drop them off.  As far as I’m concerned that person should get paid to do their job, and I already paid it.  Same goes for the cake delivery. 

Post # 14
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

For the bartender, it’s typical to tip around $25 per bartender. Some of your guests will probably be filling a tip jar (if it’s allowed by your venue) with $1 bills when they grab drinks so $100 extra might be much (IMO).

With regards to the tips for waiters/waitresses, I always thought you base the tip on LABOR (which should be portioned out in your bill) not the total cost. 15-20% of the labor fee should be significantly less than the total bill for food and drink. Someone correct me if I’m wrong!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Future MrsB:  I completely agree. In restaurants servers make around $3/hr so the tips are their wages. Any catering company, etc. must pay minimum wage-same goes to the bartender. I know our servers/bartenders are making $20-$25/hour from us. Why should we be expected to tip additional money? People don’t tip the every day workers in the mall, grocery store, fast food restaurant, etc. I dont know why you are expected to tip everyone touching your wedding if you’re already paying them a fair price to do their job.

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