(Closed) "Tipping" the Bride and Groom? What do you think?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you consider a tip jar for the married couple an etiquette no no?
    Yes : (114 votes)
    74 %
    No : (19 votes)
    12 %
    Not the way you described, that seemed fine : (22 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve never seen that.  Was it for the cards?  Or just loose cash?

    Post # 4
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Eh, not something I would do but it wouldn’t bother me if I saw it at a wedding. I probably wouldn’t contribute to it though.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I know that for certain people/regions/cultures/areas/whatever, a wedding is an opportunity to give lots and lots and lots of money to the couple. I’ve never been to a wedding like that and I don’t think it’s normal around here, so I would personally be put off by a tip jar for the bride and groom.

    Post # 7
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    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Ive seen dollar dances, passing a shoe around, or donations for a kiss. Im not really a fan of these at weddings. One I went to did all of these and a lot of guest commented on how it was a bit much.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Attending your wedding and bringing a gift is enough. Asking for “tips” is ridiculous. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think a tip jar is a bit much.  I think dollar dances are a little hoaky too, but I’ll admit, I went to a wedding last friday and totally paid to dance with the groom!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee

    Was it there along with a ‘wishing well’ or was that it?

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t like that it was next to the favor table. It says to me “tip us for the favor we give you”, and to me, that is kinda tacky

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted for no because I read the question wrong. My answer is hell YES!!! 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    That’s a bit tacky to me, I voted yes.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee

    Begging for money (even passingly) will always be impolite.

    Tips are rewards for jobs well done.  I don’t know what they did that was so great other then get married.

    I’d be tempted to put in a slip of paper with “don’t eat yellow snow” written on it.

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