Post # 1
Can anyone let me know how much they tipped their priest or how much they are planning to tip their priest? Can he accept money or does it need to be in gift form (ie. a nice watch or fancy restaurant gift certificate)?
Post # 3
I didn’t handle that part. But if I remember correctly, I think it was basically in the form of a donation to the church. Try to ask someone at the curch, like a wedding coordinator or even the secretary. They will advise you what is customary. (That’s what we did anyway,) I think the amount will probably vary depending on where you live.
Post # 4
Are you also paying him a fee for his services? Our set fees for the church are working out to be $200 for the reverend, $100 each to the organist and custodian, and $165 donation to the church.
Post # 5
@jhphi: There is a $300 fee to use the church (that money doesn’t go to the priest…it’s more for like cleaning, etc.) but no fee for his services.
Post # 6
We have a family member that is a pastor and will be performing the ceremony, though it’s not his home church. I had planned on providing him with a gift, but this post makes me think I need to check on a donation for the church as well! Thanks!
Post # 7
I will be giving my priest $100as a gift. The church fee does not go to him.
Post # 8
The cost of $300 is to use the space which goes into the church’s revenue, the priest’s time to customize your wedding goes unnoticed unless you choose to pay him.
You should absolutely pay your priest. People often skip this or think giving money is awkward but believe me it is appreciated (my mom is a minister and she spends weeks planning a wedding ceremony-often unthanked and unpaid). Should your priest decide to put it towards the church that is his perogative. $200 for his services is appropriate-and I do think it should be written out to him not the church.
You are thoughtful to remember your priest, he’ll appreciate it!
Post # 9
Oh and Myfavorite, in my opnion, if you do decide to make a donation to the church you should probably donate to the church where the wedding is being held (if they haven’t charged you a usage fee) and also to either your pastor directly or his own church.
Post # 10
My wedding was not at my home church and the priest was also from another parish (not from the church we had the wedding at nor from our home church). The church site fee was $1200 for non-members and we gave our priest a $400 honorarium, in a check made out to him.