Post # 17
That list with the percentages cannot apply to every city. I think many cities automatically include a service charge of 18-20% (or mine does, anyway). In my city, you are required to pay the service charge, and (in addition to 9.5% tax) there is an additional health care tax for service industry workers to get health care. This is even if you go to a restaurant and have a party over a certain size, or want to order ahead of time for a small group.
This means that, say, you pay $10k on venue (that includes the food), the tax on that is going to be $950 and the service charge $2000. That’s bascially another $3k and if you tack on 20% gratituity for the site manager, you’ve raised it to $15k — and haven’t even tipped the photographer yet! lol… That’s just not reasonable.
I am generally a very generous tipper, however I’m not sure that I would tip when a “service charge” is included unless the vendor has provided extra great service.
Post # 18
We only tipped the officiant, photographer, stylist, and musicians from the ceremony. The tipping for waitstaff was included with the venue price.
Post # 19
There are “standards” to tip but I tipped what I felt comfortable with. For example, my photographers own their own business but it said you should tip 15-20%. My package (at a discount) was $3500. No way could I tip up to $600!
The only people I tipped were the hair/makeup artists, photographer, DJ, banquet captain and sales manager. The limo already had the gratuity included and for services that were drop off, like flowers, I did not tip them.
I tipped the DJ $100 on a $1690 bill, banquet manager $50, sales manager $50 gift card, hair and makeup 20% of total bill and photographer $200. Our officiant was my Brother-In-Law so we did not tip him. We also bought meals for our vendors (they had what the guests ate, which was filet & chicken) that included 2 photographers, DJ & assistant and photobooth attendant.
Post # 20
Oh, and I agree that delivery drivers do not need to be tipped. Most rental companies charge a delivery fee anyways so its unnecessary to tip the driver. We also did not tip valet. It was included complimentary but I asked the sales manager how much people usually tip and she said not to because either the guests do or since our wedding was at a restaurant in a ballroom, the valet would have no idea if it was a wedding guest or restaurant patron that was tipping them.
Post # 21
Someone posted this awhile back, so I hope that you find it helpful.
Post # 22
instead of following anyone’s guidelines i just tip (or not) like i would at any other occasion. if i was happy with the service, i would tip nicely. if not, then they get paid per the contract and that was it. as someone who works weddings all the time i understand how hard vendors work during an event and it’s always nice to feel appreciated. we tipped the make-up artists, DJ, coordinators, photographers and cinematographers.
Post # 23
I know that our venue included gratuity into the package so we didn’t tip. But we did however give a gift to the venue’s wedding coordinator since she did an amazing job and really made sure that everything went according to plan. I also sent a gift to the makeup artist/hairstylist since spent a lot of time doing my hair and made me look amazing. I got them gift baskets at Wine Country Gift Baskets that were not only huge but cost about $40 each.
Post # 24
I’m so confused about how much I should tip the waitstaff at my reception. The gratuity is NOT included in our bill and the manager said we should just tip them whatever we feel they deserve. In my contract, it suggests tipping them 18-20% of the food bill, which is about $450. We are having 4 waiters, 1 bartender, and a carver for a meat station. The bartender has an hourly fee of $30/hr and the waiters get $18/hr. We’re doing a buffet dinner.
Some sources are saying they should get $20-40 each, while others agree with what’s in my contract, 20% of the entire bill. $100 versus $450 is a big difference since our budget is extremely tight at this point. What do you all think is appropriate for our situation?
Also, my makeup artist works independently and the entire fee will go directly to her. Should I still tip?
Post # 25
I get that tipping is important in a lot of cases, but I feel it is getting out of hand. Now a days were supposed to tip EVERYONE. If you follow strict “tipping etiquette when you go to a hotel youre supposed to tip: the person who opens the door, carried your luggage, parks your car, checks you in at the counter, etc etc. By the time you even get to your room your broke. The whole point of a tip is someone who gives outstanding service, but now we have to tip everyone regardless. If someone provides bad service we’re still evil if we dont tip. Dont get me wrong I tip people, but if we follow all these etiquette rules for tipping everyone, we will have no money left. Oh and also now a 15% tip at a restaurant isnt good enough it has to be 20%. Its not my fault the restuarant is cheap and under pays their employees.
Post # 26
@bananafishfever – I had a similar situation, just ask what is the average that people tip at your venue and go from there. We ended up tipping $50 per person, which I thought was really low, but was higher than the average of $30
Post # 27
This is who we tipped at our wedding:
Hair/make-up people: I actually tipped them about 30 percent because I was beyond happy with the outcome and their overall enthusiasm. But, I also kind of skimped with tipping on the trial so I wanted to make up for it.
Officiant: $40 and a gift basket of goodied, including a Target gift card for $10. We had already paid her a fee for her services, but she went above and beyond.
Ceremony string musicians: $20 each. There were two of them. They charged us $300 for an hour.
That was pretty much it. We didn’t have a DJ, limo driver, coat check, bathroom attendant or any of that stuff. Our photographer owned her own business and I honestly just forgot about the second shooter (oops). Our DOC was great, but she also owned her own business. And you don’t typically tip the florist or cake person.
Our venue added a 20 percent service charge to our bill, so we didn’t need to tip the wait staff. I asked my sister, who works a lot of weddings, if we should tip the bartenders, and she said at almost every wedding she’s done, the guests usually tip the bartenders, not the couple.
Post # 28
For some reason I feel weird about tipping the people at my church – that just seems off to me, and somehow cheap. Do you tip the pastor/church staff if the ceremony venue is at your own regular church?
Post # 29
That feels weird to me, too! Perhaps when it’s your own church, you can look at it more as a donation? I know this thread is pretty old, but maybe someone else can chime in.