(Closed) Tipping vendors

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did you tip vendors?
    Yes - 15% : (10 votes)
    28 %
    Yes - 20% : (5 votes)
    14 %
    No : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Some : (17 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
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    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    The general rule as I understand it, is that you don’t have to tip the owner of the business. For instance, my massage therapist owns her own business and I book her directly, and she told me tips were unnecessary. 

    Any sole-proprieters in the service industry want to chime in? 

    Post # 5
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    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You should tip people who don’t work for other people.  Just because you are paying someone a lot (or more than you originally planned to pay them) doesn’t mean you don’t need to tip them.

    Post # 7
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    13289 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Is it a gratuity or a service charge added to your bill?  My proposals all include a service charge, which are typically not the tip.  If you want to tip the servers, it’s traditionally done in cash at the end of the night.

    Otherwise, I follow the general rules of tipping.  If they own their own business, no tip.  If they work for someone else, tip and the amount is based on how well they did their job,

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If they’re the owners, you don’t need to tip them.  But you also said “sole employees” which isn’t the same thing as being an owner.

    Post # 9
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    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @Ms. Martian:  Yeah, the way I understand it is that it’s not about whether you’re paying them a lot or a little. It’s that they’re the business owner, and they’ve set the price (value) for their services.  If you’re an employee, you don’t set the price or your wage.  I’ve read elsewhere that for example, you should tip a photographer’s assistant, but you don’t have to tip the photographer (assuming she owns the business). 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    So I was originally thinking of going with the rule that if they own their own business, no tip, but then I contracted with my unbelievable makeup artist – who owns her own business, and is the sole employee. The contract specified that although no tips are necessary, they are appreciated. So that made me doubt myself. I’m now planning to tip her, but haven’t decided yet on my photog or videographer (who also own their businesses). I just don’t want to be a jerk if they are expecting it.

     

     

    Post # 12
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    13289 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Ms. Martian:  Interesting!  I’ve seen a lot of posts on here with people thinking that the service charge is the tip, so I just wanted to be clear! 🙂  $250 per server sounds reasonable to me – but I’m in DC where everything is super expensive!  haha.  As long as it says gratiutity, you are in the clear, and no extra tip is necessary!!

    Post # 14
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    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Ok.  I’m a business owner.  I want to say first, I do not want to offend anyone.

    Yes, I own my own businesses and set the pricing.  But I also have all the expenses, and you can only set the prices so much before you’ve priced yourself out of the market.  So, in my particular scenario, I pay rent of multiple thousands, trainings, taxes, product, insurance, utilities, advertising, mobile/gas service plus I pay my employees a generous commission or hourly.

    I think everyone who provides a service should be tipped as its not about whether they own the business or not, it’s that they are doing a service you have chosen because they do great work.

    I have had two clients in the five years I’ve been a business owner tell me they would not tip me because I was the owner.  They are clients I do my job but nothing extra, I don’t move heaven and earth to accommodate them etc.

    In closing, brides and their events are a pain in the ass.  I love my job as I’ve said on countless threads, but working in bridal has its own downsides,  and it’s really nice to be appreciated.

     

    ETA-I am totally open to having people share their thoughts on this, but it doesn’t change my mind or my feelings and I don’t want anyone to feel that I’ve been rude or inflammatory.  This is so personal, tipping and income but I thought someone might appreciate the thoughts from a lowly service provider.  And fwiw, I make better tips as the owner then anyone in my staff because my clients appreciate my expertise and effort.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think that you should tip the venue (servers/cooks/cleanup people I’m assuming) 18% minimum and 20-25% if they do an excellent job. This is standard.. I can’t even believe they’re only requiring 15% but I’m SURE they’re assuming that you will add a little more. Most restaurants (mine included) add an 18-20% gratuity for parties of 6 or more, and most of the venues that I looked at required a 20 or 21% gratuity added. Mine requires an 18% gratuity, though I’ve pretty much already decided based on their quality of service so far that I’m going to request that they raise it to at least 20%. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @axeyourmakeupkit:  Thanks for the perspective. You definitely haven’t been offensive. And it’s interesting to hear your thoughts as a businessowner. 

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