(Closed) Tipping Vendors

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

So I don’t think I know ALL the tipping rules, but I was just in a wedding this past weekend and helped the bride with the tipping, so I know some.

Caterer – tip the servers and catering staff (15-20% I think)

Reception hall – tip the workers (10-15% I think)

Cake – tip the delivery people ($5 – $10 each)

Florist – tip only if they were delivered

Bartender – tip! (15-25% I think)

Transportation – tip (15-20% maybe?)

Officiant – tip ONLY if you didn’t have to pay

Those are the only ones I can think of right now.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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197 posts
Blushing bee

In the US, unfortunately, it is terrible manners to not tip if you were happy with performance. Another group of people that are important to tip are vendors assistants. They often are working for free/experience or for minimum wage, which is pathetically low.

You can put tips in envelopes and hand them out towards the end of the night (or after they do their job, some won’t be there for the reception). If you have a coordinator you can give them the all envelopes and he/she will hand them out. You can even have a parent or a sibling (or someone you trust) do the handing out so that you don’t have to worry about.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh – I forgot DJ (because both myself and my friend had ipod weddings), but you should probably tip the DJ and any ceremony musicians you have.

Also, I think it’s customary to prepare all the tips in advance and put them in labeled envelopes and give them to the Best Man to hand out to people.  Usually you should tip at the end of their services.  So after the flowers are delivered, you tip.  After the ceremony is over, you tip the officiant and musicians, after the reception, you tip the DJ, reception hall, caterers, etc.

Post # 6
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

do you tip if gratuity has already been added to your total cost? My contracts all add like 20% gratuity, so I didn’t plan to hand out major tips in addition to that. Maybe a tip for above and beyond service, but not an auto tip…is that correct or should i be budgeting another amount?

Post # 7
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think if gratuity is already included, you do not need to tip an additional amount.  I think with my friend’s wedding, gratuity was not included, so she had to figure out what to tip the caterer and the reception hall.  But I don’t think you need to tip MORE if it’s already included in the cost.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was just about to ask th esame question. All my services come with gratuity added already, I wasn’t planning on tipping any further or tipping their assistants or anything.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Our 20% gratuity was also included, but when asking the owners about it, both said ‘of course anything over and above that would be greatly appreciated’. Of course it would! lol

We did make up envelopes to hand out individually at the end of the night. Bartenders were given $100. each(2), servers $50. each (5), DJ $100.,chefs $100. each (3) photographer $100. We just kept it simple.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No, you do not tip if gratituity is already added.

Many caterers add the gratuity into your contract to avoid the stress of a tip and to make sure that their workers are compensated.

One word of caution – be sure you understand what each percentage added to your contract goes to – many caterers will add a service charge (15-20%) that looks like a gratuity, but is actually intended to cover their costs/any losses/etc.

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