Post # 1
I have read all the etiquette guides about tipping vendors, but am still confused about this one. My venue is providing catering and bar service, as well as tables, linens, etc. They are charging me an 18% service charge on food and beverages. Is this the tip, or do I have to tip on top of that? If I do have to tip, who do I tip? Thanks Ladies!
Post # 3
The 18% service charge is the tip. After your wedding if you feel they went above and beyond to accomodate you and your guests you can tip them on top of that. Generally people tip from $50-150. Your tip never needs to exceed $150 though. (From what I’ve read at least.) The venue makes most of the money off of weddings, so you may just want to tip your bartenders and Maitre’De at the end of the night.
Post # 4
Ok, now I am confused, our caterer, like Audrey97, is doing the same thing, profiding linens and candles. They also have an 18% service fee on food and beverages. I asked them if this was gratuity and they told me it was not. And that we can decide what to give as a tip.
Another question on tipping. Our officiant and musicians are not through a company or organization. This is their side job, do we tip them?
Post # 5
I don’t know if this will clarify things, but our venue has in-house catering (the only option), so they already have tables, linens, staff, etc. It is not a separate caterer bringing everything to the venue.
Luxe, I was under the impression that people who run their own businesses do not get tips, since all the money is going to them, not to a separate business owner. Anyone else know about this one?
Post # 6
Audrey97, Since the venues only option is in house catering and they already own everything, I wouldn’t tip them. I would still tip the waitstaff and bartenders since they’ll be working their butts off all night.
Luxe, both the officiant and musicians are optional for tipping. I wouldn’t tip the officiant, you’ve already paid them, and if you’re asking them to stay and enjoy the reception, thats payment enough. I would only tip the musicians if you think they deserve it.
Here’s a link that I think may help you.
Post # 7
Depending on your staff, little things go a long way too. In addition to tipping, we made sure all our waitstaff got favors (locally handmade chocolates and wrapped candles) and offered the office staff (our wedding was at our country club) who helped to coordinate everything some of the flowers to take home. Everybody was quite thrilled; we went in for lunch on Tuesday (and to pick up the leftover wine) and everybody came over to say how good the chocolates were and how much they were enjoying the flowers.
Post # 8
Miss Camera – thanks for the link. This tipping stuff drives me bonkers! I’ve got a service fee in my contract in addition to charges for the various servers, bartenders, event manager and kitchen staff. With all those charges, it would seem that service would be pretty much covered, but I’m not at all sure if they are expecting a tip on top. Thankfully, that’s the only part that is ambiguous – everything else is clear (at least on this issue).
On the one hand, I really am pleased so far with the caterer and feel like I am in good hands. Of course, that’s why we’re splurging and going with this caterer – the prices we’re paying reflect that. I don’t want to gyp any of the service staff, but also don’t want to double tip.