(Closed) Tipping…Let's hear your opinions

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 3
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d say the people who don’t own the business: the DJ and assistant, florist delivery person, and bus driver.

THe officiant deserves a gift or donation of some sort if he/she is a religiously-affiliated officiant.

Post # 4
847 posts
Busy bee

I haven’t gotten married yet, but if I were in your situtation

Photographer, Photobooth, Day of Coordinator – no tips

DJ – $100, DJ Assistant $25

Florist $10-$20 depending on the complexity of the setup

Bus Driver: 20%

Officiant $100 – donation to the religious institution or direct payment


Post # 5
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only person we tipped was the DJ. We had decided on a tip before the wedding, but he was so good that we gave him an extra tip after as well.

Everyone else owned  their own business. So they got good reviews but no tip.

I also had a ton of friendors who provided services as their gift. They got some sort of thank you gift: officiant x 2, ceremony musician, hairdresser, and bartender.

I consider myself a good tipper and have worked as a waitress, so I understand the importance of tipping in some industries. But I think that we, as Americans, sometimes take tips to extremes. Honestly, I wish tipping wasn’t a thing. Tell me how much something costs. I’ll pay that.


Post # 6
232 posts
Helper bee

where I am most of these vendors dont get a tip..I am curious as to why people decide not to tip the owner of the business ( if a tip is involved). they are usually small business owners,,the last to home at the end of the day and often the last to get paid..


Post # 7
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@haker4:  I feel that if the service is above average in any of the above services…you should tip, even if just a little extra to say that you appreciate them going above and beyond for you. Just my 2 cents :).

Post # 8
7218 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We tipped everyone a flat rate except for the limo driver- we gave her a percentage based tip. We also tipped business owners. Not sure why so many people say you’re not supposed too.

Post # 9
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Does the florist own her business?

We tipped our DJ and our make-up artist. We didn’t have a florist or bus driver. 

Post # 10
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I tipped everyone regardless of whether or not the vendor owned the business. I’m of the belief that you tip if you are pleased with the services you received. I can’t rationalize why a business owner would be exempt from that. I know it’s not a popular opinion but I thought I’d add a different perspective. 

In leiu of “tipping” our officiant, we made a donation to his church. 

Post # 14
1221 posts
Bumble bee

My daughter tipped everyone because she wanted to.  She knows about the protocol but said why shouldn’t she tip her photographer when he was one of her favorite vendors?  Most of them owned their own business but she enjoyed working with them.  Her Day of Coordinator even commented that most people don’t tip her and especially not her assistant.  It was nice to know that it was recognized and appreciated since thats what she was trying to tell them too.

Post # 15
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@haker4:  That’s interesting. I was a waitress for years but that makes me more discerning with tips. I was making $2-3 an hour which was taxed and tipped out to others. The tips were my pay. I’m happy to give tips for waiters and bartenders who are on server’s minimum wage. For a lot of wedding vendors I feel like it’s strange to tip because they’re being paid fairly for their work. 

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