(Closed) Tipping…Let's hear your opinions

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@melonseeds:  

When you say gift what do you mean?  candle? coffe mug? gift card to local restaurant?  I think that makes a huge difference.

I also think a gift to the church for the officiant, especially if there is no fee is essentially the same thing as a fee, it is generally expected and should be about the same as the local fee for an officiant.

My opinion, YMMV

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Jane77677:  i gifted gift cards to all my vendors who went above and beyond but weren’t what people normally would consider under tipping. Gifts ranged $75 – 100 and were usually Amazon gift cards. I did not have an officiant and I’m not familiar with how that works. Typically church pastors have a suggested donation to the church and I would host the pastor for dinner.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Photographer (owns his own business)  – NO tip

 DJ (gets scheduled out by the company  that hires him) – TIP

 DJ Assistant (same as above) – TIP

 Florist (delivering and  setting up flowers) – NO tip

PhotoBooth people (two that own the business together) – NO tip

 Bus Driver (for shuttle of guests to and from, about 1/2  mile down the road) – TIP

 Officiant (obviously own business) – NO tip

 Day-of-Coordinator  (own business) – NO tip

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@melonseeds:  

That’s cool, sorry I wasn’t specifically picking on you or your gifts, I guess it kind of looked that way. 

I just sometimes wonder when people say they give a gift, what they consider a gift you know.  Your definition is obviously very generous and appropriate. 

 

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Jane77677:  no offense taken! 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

Photographer – No (because they own)
DJ and assistant share one tip – Yes
Florist – I probably wouldn’t :S
PhotoBooth people – No (I will be tipping ours because they will be a friend in charge of the camera)
Bus Driver – As a passenger I would tip the driver, so assume a few people will?
Officiant – invited to dinner as their tip
Day-of-Coordinator – No

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Photographer- since they own thier own business, no tip unless they go above and beyond what is expected in the contract.  This would mean if they arrive early and stick around late, or if they drive to another location that was not in your contract or discussed.

DJ and assitant- both should get tips

Florist- again, only if they go above and beyond what would be expected in the contract, such as you adding something last minute

Photobooth- Since they own the company, I would not tip.  There are very few situations where I can see the need for photobooth people to put thier neck on the line for you where tipping would be necessary.

Bus driver- tip

Officent- this one is the tricky one to me.  I think if they are a religious officent, any fees that you would be paying them would go to their church.  I would really consider a gift, like a certificate to a local resteraunt, or gift card to a store (grocery or something like a Target where most people will shop)  If this is just their Saturday gig, I would still consider a gift card as a thank you, but not as heavily as I would for a religious officient. 

DOC- This is another where they really would have to earn any extra money I paid them.  If they are really working with you, I may consider a gift card

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper

We tipped everyone a flat amount, not based on percentages. We handed out lots of envelopes with $100.’s in them that night.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@Jane77677:  When I said gift, I mean the same kind of gift I’ve given / been given when I worked in professional services — something that will show that I appreciated working with them and would recommend them to others, or work with them again.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Fiance and I were just talking about this! Literally all of our vendors except our venue staff and our transportation driver own their own businesses- but I definitely WANT to tip of photographers (and maybe others depending on how they do- our photogs are the only ones we’ve worked with (e session) so far). We decided that we’ll have cash on hand to tip the driver and venue staff, and then everyone else we’ll send a thank you, and if we were REALLY happy, we’ll send them a box of salt water taffy and fudge from a shore store. We just moved to the jersey shore area and our wedding (thus all our vendors) are in St. Louis, so it’s a nice treat (I think).

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