- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Hello Ladies and Congratulations!
We have just over 7.5 months until our big day, and it’s begun to really sink in! We are getting married at my Mom’s house and we are very excited about it, but some things are proving to be incredibly overwhelming and stressful. It’s nothing to do with venue, seeing as how my sister had her wedding in our parent’s house in 2001. I know it can be done, and with how incredibly creative and amazing my mom is, i know it’s going to be breathtaking.
Here’s where some of the stress comes in. just curious to hear from other brides in similar situations who may have some tips! My dad passed in 2002, and of course this will cause the usual wedding emotions to rise and to spread like wildfire throughout the family. I fully expect it, and I too will likely be dealing with some serious emotions the days leading up to and during the wedding day. But, I’m worried that these emotions on top of my mom being single-income and planning, etc. may become too much for her. We haven’t begun to really but-heads or anything, but I know that oftentimes, this is the usual.
My mom and I have been an amazing team, especially since we lost my dad. But I am already starting to feel almost suffocated when we begin planning things. She’ll ask for my opinion and when I give her a (polite) honest answer, she gets somewhat defensive. My mom has always been somewhat of a martyr and she’s always been REALLY good at pulling the “woe is me card.” I’m starting to worry that she’s going to eventually have trouble seeing through the negativity. I am the baby, and I’m starting a huge, new chapter in my life. And I don’t want her to ever look back and wish she had focused more on the positives of planning. Fortunately, my godmother is moving down to where my mom lives, and I think this will be a positive thing, as I am stationed about 4 hours away from my mom so, getting together with enough time for the small planning details, can be hard.
I guess I’m just looking for some sort of guidance. I am always considerate of how my mom feels, but sometimes, she can take things to the next level and I don’t ever want to reflect back and think of my wedding day as a relief that it’s all over.